If you're miserable because of circumstances, it isn't really the circumstances. Your misery is a result of what you allow to get to you. Horrible things may happen. How much you allow them to drag you is up to you. The one thing you have complete control over is your reaction. That may not seem … Continue reading Allow
Tag: perspective
Views
An interesting thing about differing views, is that we can be so blind to anything that doesn't align with our own. It's best to remember that a view is how you see it, it isn't necessarily how it is. Someone else could see something different altogether. Same topic, different views.
Obligations
Remember a fundamental fact: all of your obligations are from your own choices. Realizing that you are the one who chose to bring them into your life, can turn all of your obligations from something you have to do, into something you get to do. And, that can make all the difference in the world. … Continue reading Obligations
Notifications
Notifications can be a wonderful help, or an annoying nuisance. It's up to you to decide how to perceive them. This is true for just about everything in your life. And, if you're getting too many notifications throughout the day, you can always limit their frequency. It's your life. Schedule it in the most beneficial … Continue reading Notifications
Gravity
Gravity is a phenomenon that causes things to be heavy. It pulls them down and gives them weight. It also protects them from just floating away forever and ever. It's the same circumstance, only looked at in a positive light. This change in perspective can help you out in practically any circumstance. What seems like … Continue reading Gravity
Teach
The best way to excel at your skills is to teach them to someone else. It all seems to go back to the idea of giving away what want to have more of. Teaching someone else helps you to clarify what it is in your own words. And, it helps to show yourself just how … Continue reading Teach
Choose
Life gets very simple once you realize that you get to choose every moment of it. Simple isn't easy, it's just simple because there's only the one rule. And that is, that you get to choose. You get to choose how you react to everything. You get to choose how to perceive everything. You get … Continue reading Choose
Vista
A vista is another word for a distant view, in particular a pleasing view. As with all views, it totally depends on the one doing the seeing. And, it's not so much what is being seen, but how it's chosen to be seen. It's your choice. Choose to see a pleasant vista.
Personal
In Don Miguel Ruiz' classic, "The Four Agreements," the second agreement is Don't take anything personally. It's a powerful stance to take. And there's truth to it. We all see the world through our own individual perspective, so there's no way to know exactly what others perceive. Just like nobody else will ever know exactly … Continue reading Personal
Under the Same Moon
How can we seem to be living in entirely different worlds from each other when we're all really just on the one planet, under the same moon? The truth is, it is one planet with billions of people, and just as many different perspectives. That can be an excuse for divisiveness and separate agendas. And … Continue reading Under the Same Moon
Objectivity
The concept of objectivity is tricky. It's about an unbiased truth, free of individual subjectivity. While I believe that there are universal truths, I also believe that everyone has their own unique perspective on them. In other words, while there may be an objective truth, it might be hard to for everyone see it through … Continue reading Objectivity
Attitude
I personally believe that your success depends on a a little bit of talent, brains and contacts and a whole lot of can-do attitude. Your attitude can make or break you. In other words, your perspective on things, and how you react to them. And the fastest way to change a crummy day to a … Continue reading Attitude
Permanent
Nothing lasts forever. That can be a scary thought, or it can be extremely liberating. Whichever perspective you take is your choice. Just know that "permanent" doesn't really exist. It reminds me of when I was a kid, and there was a craze for people to go out and get a "permanent" hairstyle, or what's … Continue reading Permanent
Knowing
We can know some things about something, but not really know the whole thing. We just don't have access to all of the information, all the time, to fully know the whole story. It might be best to remember this, whenever you find yourself jumping to any conclusions.
Certainty
It's good to be confident in what you're doing. It's good to be comfortable in your level of experience and knowledge. However, certainty in any of it is a trap. Milton Glaser says, “Certainty is a closing of the mind.” We just can't know the whole truth, as there are so many perspectives. Confidence is … Continue reading Certainty
Teachable
Our society is obsessed with youth and staying young. It's mostly for superficial reasons, and yet the best way to stay youthful is to be mentally present (hence not stuck in the past) and to remain ever teachable. There is always something new to learn as long as you don't believe you know it all … Continue reading Teachable
Knowing
It's wise to remember that what you know is only one perspective out of billions. What you know is only what you know. It may seem like what you know is what is known by everyone, but even if it is darn near identical to someone you're close to, they still will just know it … Continue reading Knowing
Everyone
Everyone has their own unique perspective. Everyone is unique, just like everyone else. It's a wonderful idea to remember when you need to find common ground with someone. The fact that they are living the human experience, just like you, with all of it's pain and glory should help you to relate. After all, everyone … Continue reading Everyone
Waste of Time
Being concerned with other people's opinions about you is an utter waste of time. The truth is that their opinions aren't even about you, they are about themselves and their own perspective on the world, as warped as that may be. And I've known some warped individuals. I'm sure you have, too. I've also discovered … Continue reading Waste of Time
Yet
There's a magical word that you can add to any statement that might need a little bit of optimism. That word is yet. It's not that you don't know the answers. You just don't know them yet. It's not that you haven't found the love of your life. You just haven't found them yet. Or, … Continue reading Yet
Upside
Look for the upside in things and situations. There are different ways to look at things, some ways are negative and some ways are more optimistic. So, why not choose the more optimistic outlook? Why not look for the upside? Because there is always an upside. Only sometimes, you just might have to turn upside … Continue reading Upside
Endings
Endings can be sad, melancholy or even shocking. But sometimes all they need is a shift in perspective. Every ending is also a beginning to something else. Your whole outlook changes when you look ahead to what's beginning, rather than continuing to look back at what's ending.
Wonderful Life
It's a wonderful life if you choose to see it that way. That's the great secret. Choose to look for the good. Choose to see your blessings more than your troubles. Try counting your blessings every night before you go to sleep. In no time, you'll start to wake up happier each morning, and naturally … Continue reading Wonderful Life
Empathy
There is not usually a "one size fits all" solution to complex societal problems, but there can always be empathy. We may each have our own unique perspective for understanding the world, but ultimately we are all still people. So, even though our perspectives may not be the same, we all still want to feel … Continue reading Empathy
Absolutely Unique
Everyone wants to live in a world where everyone else sees the world through their perspective. Everyone wants to be right, and they want to be acknowledged as being on the right side of history. But when we refuse to see that everyone else has their own unique perspective too, and when we refuse to … Continue reading Absolutely Unique
Free Will
Just simply focus on what you are for. Turn away from what you are against. Focusing on what you are for empowers you. It energizes you, inspires you, and makes the world seem hopeful. Focusing on what you are against dis-empowers. It drains you of energy and drive, and makes the world seem dark and … Continue reading Free Will
Heal the World
We experience the world from our own perspective. And when we feel a strong need to fix something out there, it's really a reminder that we have something to address from within ourselves. Jesus spoke of this, when he said: "Before you attempt to remove a speck from the eye of another, take the log … Continue reading Heal the World
Response
The one thing that we are ever really in control of, is our response to a situation. Things may not always go in our favor, or according to our plan. Things may change abruptly, or they may refuse to budge no matter how hard we try to improve them. People may suddenly change on you, … Continue reading Response
All Things
When we think in human terms, it can be easy to feel hopeless, because humans are fallible. But I have a personal mantra that I remind myself with daily, which is the fact that there is always more to the story. And especially when things seems to get real dark and hopeless, I have to … Continue reading All Things
Greatness
When you feel judged, it's best to remember that your feelings come from your thoughts. The judgement you're feeling is coming from your own perspective. That feeling of being judged is coming directly from yourself. That realization is empowering, because it reveals that you are in charge of your perceptions. Your perceptions are what dictate … Continue reading Greatness
Perspective
I believe that because we each experience the world as filtered through our own perspective, that what we see is simply a result of what we are. Basically, if you think the world is full of liars, it's because you are a liar. If you can be convinced that something has a sinister ulterior motive, … Continue reading Perspective
Super
Empathy is a superpower. One that I believe we are all gifted with, but must each individually develop to it's full power. Empathy is the power that will heal the divide of our society. But just like we learn from all of those Marvel movies and CW shows, it takes bravery to stand up and … Continue reading Super
A Good Day
It's a good day to be happy. I know it's common to wish this insane year would be over already, but I can't help but think about all of the people who's loved ones never even made it to see this year, be it crazy-terrible or not. I agree that this year sucks, but if … Continue reading A Good Day
Love in my mind
I'm going through the workbook for A Course in Miracles (that is, I've started it again - hey, third times a charm) and the lesson for day #30 is: God is in everything I see because God is in my mind. One of my favorite authors on the subject of ACIM is the very entertaining … Continue reading Love in my mind
Healing
There is a beautiful Hawaiian prayer for healing, called the Ho’oponopono Prayer. It's simple, short and powerful. By repeating it's four phrases over and over, it helps to calm you, and clear anger, hurt and negativity. It's about forgiveness, but it calls on you to take responsibility yourself, as any emotions you feel ultimately come … Continue reading Healing
Change
Wayne Dyer would always say, When we change the way we look at things, the things we look at change. It's helpful to remember that we have this power, especially when the things we look at don't look so great. And, oftentimes the world around us looks so troubled because there's a lot of noise … Continue reading Change
Perspective
Are you living from a perspective of lack, or from a perspective of abundance? Lack causes your energy to contract and close in. Abundance causes your energy to be open and expand. Living with abundance doesn't necessarily mean that you're suddenly a billionaire. Living with abundance means that you feel open, expanded and at ease. … Continue reading Perspective
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