Every day is someone's first. Every day is someone's last. And everyday is everyone's chance at a fresh start. You get that gift every day that you get. So make it count, while you can.
Decisions can be intimidating if you believe in lack. If you believe there isn't enough to go around, then any wrong decision you make could cost you dearly. It seems to me that rather than focusing on how to get better at making decisions, you should instead start learning to believe more in abundance. Get … Continue reading Decisions
It's good to be confident in what you're doing. It's good to be comfortable in your level of experience and knowledge. However, certainty in any of it is a trap. Milton Glaser says, “Certainty is a closing of the mind.” We just can't know the whole truth, as there are so many perspectives. Confidence is … Continue reading Certainty
When you need to focus your mind, just focus on your breath and breathe. Whether you need courage or calm, just breathe. It's fundamental, and it's everything. Breathe. You've got this.
Anyone who has ever been on a family road trip has undoubtedly heard the often repeated question: Are we there yet?! It's impatient at best, and passive aggressive to say the least. Because if you're looking out at nothing but highway and scenery, then you ain't there yet. Asking that question only makes the journey … Continue reading Are We There Yet?
They say that youth is wasted on the young. I think it's a state of mind. While we can't stay young forever, we can certainly keep a youthful spirit. It simply means to embody the qualities of honesty, staying open, ever excited about what you can learn, a sense of playfulness, and joy. Keep a … Continue reading Youth
The idea of winning can be a trap. It implies lack. In order for someone to win, everyone else has to lose. It implies that there is not enough for everyone to win. Being obsessed with winning teaches you to be ever aware of this lack. Even when you win, you need to make sure … Continue reading Winning
We're all afraid to get hurt. And opening yourself up to feel your emotions can leave you wide open to get hurt. But closing yourself off prevents you from living. In order to experience life, and to get past painful experiences, we need to allow ourselves to be vulnerable to lead with an open heart. … Continue reading Vulnerable
There are so many differences between people, and the divide seems to only get wider. But there are some things that are so universal that we all have them in common, no matter where we're coming from. A smile is the universal language of kindness. Laughter is the universal language of joy. Dance is the … Continue reading Universal
Today is the day you get to live. You'll never experience yesterday live, it will only be as a memory, and an unreliable one at that. You'll never really experience tomorrow, because once you get there, it's today. So, today is the day. Make the most of it. Be in it. And fully live it … Continue reading Today
Food servers sometimes offer great wisdom. They gain it from dealing directly with people and helping them get what they need. Like offering cracked pepper on a dinner salad. The quick catchphrase they offer when crushing the pepper is, "say when." This lets you know that you get to determine the perfect amount of pepper … Continue reading Say When
The thing about respect is that it's a whole lot easier to get if you give it first. And the main person you should give respect to is yourself. After all, how can you expect anyone to respect you if you don't even respect yourself?
When life has gotten to be too much, I've turned to prayer for guidance. When life is wonderful, I pray in gratitude. Prayer is simply our way of communicating with God. The great thing to remember is that prayer is not just a one-sided conversation. Take care to be open to receive an answer back. … Continue reading Prayer
If you want your life to change into something more wonderful, you need to be in charge of making it happen. After all, it's your life, and you know best about what would make it great. Be deliberate in what you choose for yourself. Decide on what you want for your life and order it … Continue reading Order it
The great thing about life is it just keeps moving forward. That means every week can be the start of a whole new chapter. Every day could be your chance at a fresh start. In fact, every single moment you can decide to start fresh, to start a brand new chapter, and go forward in … Continue reading New Chapter
Our lives are simply made up of a collection of moments. Moments are all we really have. And as we live each moment, there is the realization that we'll never get that same moment back. Cherish the moments of your life as you live them.
As long as you try to control every aspect of your life, you only end up not living it. Life is meant to be experienced live, and unscripted. Loosen your grip and stop trying to control the uncontrollable. You might find that then you can actually enjoy your life.
It doesn't cost much to be kind, but it does require that you choose to give it. Everyone appreciates receiving kindness, it just makes your day better. In order for such a wonderful thing as kindness to happen, more people need to be out there giving it. So, do your part. Help make the world … Continue reading Kindness
Just take the first step. Don't get bogged down in worry about how it will all play out. You can't know the exact details anyway. You do need to take action, though. You can't just think about what you want to do. You need to do something about it. So, get started. Just take the … Continue reading Just Take the First Step
You don't have to believe your stressful thoughts. After all, they're only thoughts, and they go out as easily as they come through. Byron Katie has a simple process of staying present and actually questioning your thoughts. She starts with any stressful thought by asking, Is it true? She then goes on to ask, Can … Continue reading Is it True?
It's in fashion these days to notice all the problems of the world and to criticize everyone we can think of to blame for them. All this does is make us feel even worse. So, really, it's in fashion to feel low and work at feeling even lower. The only thing you'll get out of … Continue reading Help Someone
Time only marches forward. There is no pause button. There is no rewind. If you're resisting change, then you're only torturing yourself, because change is inevitable. You might as well get on with it, and learn to enjoy the ride. After all, if you aren't changing and growing, then you're rotting.
There are times when you want to give up. There are times when it can be so frustrating you just want to cry or scream or throw something. Frustration is painful, but it's also a great teacher. It's such a strong emotion because it is telling you that you are pushing too hard. The next … Continue reading Frustration
Greatness comes from the habits you form to get you there. It comes from the things you do each and every day. You can achieve greatness. It might not happen tomorrow, but if you work at it, you can definitely get yourself there. Every day in every way you can get better and better, until … Continue reading Every Day
It's such an easy trap to get stuck planning in your head. It can be nice to dream about accomplishing something great, and then to strategize the best way to go after it. But nothing will really happen unless you do something about it. Dreaming and planning are great, but they won't bring you the … Continue reading Do Something About It
The fact is that we need each other to move forward in this life. We need to cooperate with each other, rather than fight against each other. It's like the image of a thread, which isn't very strong on its own, and can break easily. When multiple threads are woven together, they form a strong … Continue reading Cooperation
We are all connected in this life. We share the same single planet. We share the same human experience. We are all in this thing called life together. The smart ones realize that we can do so much better when we help each other. The unenlightened ones fear and block others out. The fearful build … Continue reading Bridges
It is absolutely important to stay in the present moment. However there is something to be said for developing the skill of anticipation rather than falling prey to knee-jerk reactions to life. I worked for many years in the food service industry, and I learned to be successful by demonstrating anticipation for what the guests … Continue reading Anticipation
The reason you should eat right, and get plenty of sleep, drink lots of water and exercise, is that it will all help you feel good and enjoy your life. The reason why you should practice gratitude, meditate, and take deep calming breaths is to take good care of yourself. You are the reason you … Continue reading Yourself
When making a choice, do you consider the consequences? When choosing what to eat, or watch, or even what kind of conversations you're willing to be a part of, do you consider if the choice is worthy of someone respectable? You are amazing. You should start treating yourself as worthy of the highest regard. That … Continue reading Worthy
You could wait until the path for your life is verified before beginning to live it, but you'll be waiting forever. The thing is that we just don't know all of the variables in life. We can't possible know that, the options are endless. So, the one true path for you simply cannot be verified. … Continue reading Verified
You could say a lot. You could do a lot. But how much of it is useful? How much of it is just chasing your emotions and whims? We're blessed with these lives of ours, we can do whatever we want with them. But the thing is, our time is limited. Do you really want … Continue reading Useful
Open, clear communication is vital for a healthy relationship of any kind. But, communication isn't just a matter of talking at each other. There can be a whole lot of talking happening without anything really being said. Actually, talking can end up being just so much noise. Communication involves a dialogue, which means that there … Continue reading Talking
Sometimes we just need a sign. Sometimes we can get carried away and see signs everywhere that seem to confirm our suspicions. Always we see what we want to see. So, if you're looking for a sign, here it is. See it now? See it now.
Life can be pretty hectic or rather terrifying, depending on how hard you choose to look at it. There is always something else to do, prepare for, prevent, or insure against. And you'll never get it done. So, truly, the best thing you could do for yourself, is to learn to appreciate all that you … Continue reading Relax
Plans are great to help organize your dreams, but it's important to remember that they're just plans. If you get so wrapped up in plotting the plan, or sticking to the plan, or getting frustrated because things aren't going according to the plan, then you're not really living your life, let alone your dreams. They … Continue reading Planning Plans
Life will keep progressing onward. There is no pause button. There is no rewinding option. It's helpful to remember this, especially when you're having a rough time. For me I always remember that phrase, this too shall pass. Yes, life will keep pressing onward, moving past whatever moment you're experiencing now. It's also very important … Continue reading Onward
It may be hard to believe, but people aren't watching and judging you as much as you think they are. We all tend to think we are the center of the Universe. And in some respects, we are. We are the center of our own Universe. But, so is everyone else, respectively, with their own … Continue reading Nobody’s Judging
Oftentimes the only way to get through something is to take it moment by moment. This is pretty easy advice to follow, really. Because, actually, we can only take it moment by moment. We may want to try to rush the moments somehow, but they still only move along one by one. Rushing doesn't help … Continue reading Moments
It took me a long time to learn this lesson, but if you find yourself in a hostile or toxic situation, simply leave. There is no need to fight in such a circumstance, because fighting only increases the hostility. Your peace of mind is worth so much more than that. Leave the toxic situation. Be … Continue reading Leave
Life only moves forward, but sometimes we can stay mentally and emotionally stuck. We can feel paralyzed with fear about how to move on when we've already experienced such intense pain. But holding back and staying stuck is what's continuing the pain. That resistance is likely much more painful than the actual event even was. … Continue reading Keep Going
It has always seemed pretty clear to me that it is a whole lot easier to do the right thing than it is to try and justify your actions. It's easier to speak up than it is to justify why you allowed amoral behavior. It's easier to tell the truth than it is to justify … Continue reading Justify
A strong intellect is a powerful asset, but it's important to remember that people are emotional beings. Oftentimes it's best to honor your heart and pay attention to what your emotions are telling you in dealing with others. If you combine that with a sharply focused intellect, then you just may be unstoppable in your … Continue reading Intellect
The key to living a really wonderful life is to fully appreciate everything you have, and still be eager to achieve more and do even better. It's what author Alan Cohen describes as being happy and hungry. Be happy with your life as-is, cherish it and be grateful for all that you have, but keep … Continue reading Happy and Hungry
Grief can affect us all in different ways, and it can come back up and return at any time. But grief is not something to be afraid of, or to be ashamed of. Grief isn't something you need to eradicate. You couldn't do that anyway. Grief isn't a weakness, its a powerful reminder. When you … Continue reading Grief
To ensure your own success requires that you are dedicated to the practice of following up. It's usually the follow up you give that proves your level of commitment and respect that you have to offer. It's not always easy to follow up, especially in a difficult situation. But if you don't follow up, then … Continue reading Follow Up
Everything is run on energy, even us humans. And as we're moved by energy, we have the power to direct the energy flowing through us towards whatever we want to create. Tony Robbins has a great saying for this. He says, energy flows where attention goes. Our attention is a powerful creative force. Are you … Continue reading Energy
Distractions are plentiful and they're destructive. They seem to help in avoiding stress, or loneliness, or an overloaded schedule. Distractions start out seeming to help ease those burdens, but unfortunately they soon become a huge burden themselves. It's often better to just close the app, shut off the TV, put the phone down, and face … Continue reading Distractions
It needs to be cool to care again. The only way to save our collective experience, our home, this planet and life on it, is to care about each other. Personal freedom is important, but it comes with the requirement to ensure that everyone else has access to enjoy their own freedom. It requires caring … Continue reading Caring
The goal shouldn't be perfection, because that's an impossible goal. But better is a worthy goal to strive for. Be better than you were last year. Be better than you were even yesterday. Every day you get a chance to become a better you, a wiser, more skilled you, because of the life you've lived … Continue reading Better
When your thoughts and actions are in alignment with your heart's desire, achieving it feels like no effort at all. There's just so many things that are distracting us, or stressing us, or irritating us in the world now, that it's become a struggle to maintain that alignment. But alignment is the key. So it's … Continue reading Alignment
Life is not a zero sum game, where there is only so much to go around. There is not some finite reservoir of "success" and "health" that gets depleted each time someone else gets a bit of it. So, why do we all get jealous of other's accomplishments as if their achievements take away from … Continue reading Zero Sum
Are you moving forward, or are you stuck on still hoping for yesterday's dream to come true? Yesterday's dream is a dream you had for yourself when you were just slightly younger. But if you never did anything to move towards fulfilling that dream, and so it's still just a "dream", could it also just … Continue reading Yesterday’s Dream
Wherever you go, there you are. And your problems and issues go along for the ride. Because your problems and issues have to do with you. They stem from you. Running away in an attempt to escape your issues, will only bring them with you to the new place. It's best to face them, see … Continue reading Wherever
Vision relates to so much more than what you can see. Vision can guide you towards greatness even when your life currently doesn't look like anything great. Vision is what you see with your mind. If you really want to help yourself to success, it's best to create a vision of what that looks like … Continue reading Vision
Underneath all of those labels we all pile onto ourselves, lies the same spark of life as everyone else. Underneath the categories of race, gender, nationality, religion, ideology, etc. we are all just people. It's those categories and labels that we use to judge each other with. And yet, none of us want to be … Continue reading Underneath
Our society is obsessed with youth and staying young. It's mostly for superficial reasons, and yet the best way to stay youthful is to be mentally present (hence not stuck in the past) and to remain ever teachable. There is always something new to learn as long as you don't believe you know it all … Continue reading Teachable
Feeling safe is an inherent need. But the truth is, we can't ever know every single danger that could befall us at any given moment. If we focused on all of those potential dangers we would go mad. Some people have gone mad doing it. And some people create prisons for themselves, wrapped in an … Continue reading Safe
The most effective way to gain someone's respect is to treat them with that very same level of respect. Everyone wants to feel valued and respected. Graciously extending your respect to others is a great way to earn your own from them. It's golden, just like the rule about treating others as you wish to … Continue reading Respect
When it feels like you just don't have the strength to go on, remember that a grand act of strength isn't what will get you there, but perseverance will. Perseverance can be quiet and as slow as you need it to be, just as long as you don't give up. Persevere, taking it bit by … Continue reading Persevere
Out there is full of distractions, dream results, and disappointments. But out there is really only a reflection of what's going on inside. From inside you choose what to focus on, be it a goal or a distraction. From inside you choose what your dreams are and what achieving them looks like. And from inside … Continue reading Out There
People would prefer you to be nice. Being nice is staying quiet, being polite, and putting in the effort not to ruffle feathers. That's all well and good, but it's not always the best option. Being nice is nice, but it's not the same as being kind. Sometimes being kind means speaking up against bad … Continue reading Nice
Mortality is a fact of life. At some point we all give up the ghost. The thing is, we get distracted into worrying about petty things, as if we're going to be living these lives forever, and wasting time is no big deal. It is a big deal if you want to make living worth … Continue reading Mortality
In order to have effective communication, you have to learn to listen just as effectively as knowing how to express yourself. And listening is not merely staying silent while the other person speaks. If you're busy silently judging or merely thinking of your response, then you're not listening. Drop all of that and listen. That's … Continue reading Listen
It's wise to remember that what you know is only one perspective out of billions. What you know is only what you know. It may seem like what you know is what is known by everyone, but even if it is darn near identical to someone you're close to, they still will just know it … Continue reading Knowing
Life just has so much more meaning and sparkle when it's lived with joy. Joy comes from making choices that are for your highest good. Joy feels light and happy and free. Joy comes from choosing to be joyful. It doesn't just happen to you. You choose joy, and then continue to choose joy, and … Continue reading Joy
We all want to be interesting. We all see how valuable it is to be able to capture other people's attention. And we see how distracted everyone seems from having their attention pulled in a million different directions. The most interesting thing wins, and so, we all want to be interesting. The solution is simple … Continue reading Interesting
Hope can be tricky. On the one hand, it can be your only saving grace. Holding on to hope can sometimes be the only thing that's keeping you going. On the other hand, it can end up being an unhealthy addiction. You might not choose to move on if you stay stuck holding on to … Continue reading Hope
Despite all of the wishing and all of the positive thinking that you can muster, it's just inevitable that you'll experience grief sometimes. Grief is part of the human experience. Grief comes as part of the package-deal of loss that we all risk might happen, whenever we choose to love someone or something. Grief is … Continue reading Grief
Searching and hoping for freedom, while you essentially have it, is actually choosing bondage. You can't search for freedom and experience it at the same time. The searching implies that you don't believe you have it. We are blessed with the most important freedom there is, which is free will. Realize you have it, and … Continue reading Freedom
Everyone has their own unique perspective. Everyone is unique, just like everyone else. It's a wonderful idea to remember when you need to find common ground with someone. The fact that they are living the human experience, just like you, with all of it's pain and glory should help you to relate. After all, everyone … Continue reading Everyone
They say that a dream is a wish your heart makes. It sounds fantastically magical. The great thing about dreams being magic is that they don't have a specific timeline. In other words, it's never to late to go after your dreams. Even the ones you thought you had to give up, and had buried … Continue reading Dreams
Before attempting to deal with any difficult situation, it's best to focus on being calm. A calm mind is a powerful one. Being calm helps you to see the situation clearly and more objectively. Being calm helps reveal the best response. Being calm is a superpower that anyone can access if they choose it.
The secret is that we get to choose how we perceive everything. The strange thing is that most of us choose to see things negatively. But there's liberation, and ultimately power in choosing to look on the bright side. It's your choice. Wouldn't you rather look on the bright side?
Your experience of anything depends on the attitude that you bring to it. Whether it's a party, a spin class, or your job, you'll either have a great time, or be miserable all because of your attitude, rather than the situation. It's your life. You have the choice to enjoy it and see the value … Continue reading Attitude
The days can be long, but the years are so short. And it may seem like we've got thousands of days to live through, but in the end they add up to just a handful of years. Make the most of your days. And be grateful for every birthday you get to celebrate. Because there's … Continue reading Years
Having self-worth comes from believing that you are worthy. That comes when you stop comparing yourself to others, and start placing value on your own merits. You are worthy, just by being yourself. So, be yourself. Be fully you. We are all unique, just like everyone else. The best way to prove that we are … Continue reading Worthy
Have a vision of what you want. Visualize how you want your life to look. Keep that vision clear and ever present in your mind. You will get inspired to the right actions that will lead you to making your vision a reality. But it all starts with a vision.
Uplift when you can, but don't take responsibility for other people's happiness. It's very easy to confuse the two. Wanting to be someone who always uplifts those around them is commendable, but the choice to be happy is a personal one. We just can't make that choice for someone else. It's also important to be … Continue reading Uplift
Tomorrow can hold so much promise and so much dread. But we never fully experience tomorrow. We live today. So, today is where our focus should be.
Honesty is so important, but not all honesty is needed. If it's cruel and used as a blunt-force weapon, then what good is it? What's needed much more than brutal honesty is pure sincerity. Sincerity is simply meaning what you say and saying what you mean. The thing about sincerity is that you don't need … Continue reading Sincerity
Ultimately you are the one who is responsible for your life and the choices you make for it. Things may happen to you, people may do bad things, but how you handle it all is your responsibility. The choices you make are your responsibility. It can seem like a lot of pressure, but it's really … Continue reading Responsibility
One of the best skills you can develop for yourself is patience. Things take time, hardly anything happens instantaneously. This means that we'll often find ourselves waiting. Having patience is learning to be at peace while you wait. Having patience helps you to enjoy life while your dreams unfold. Without patience it's all a misery. … Continue reading Patience
Whenever I'm feeling overwhelmed or even just down, I've found that a great way to switch my mood is to make sure my environment gets tidied up and organized. I believe that our environments match our state of mind. So, when my personal environment is messy, my inner world is most likely messy as well. … Continue reading Organized
Act natural. Look natural. Be natural. There's something so comfortable about being natural, because it involves no extra effort to be more than what you are. In a world filled with fake profiles and filters galore, it can be a lot of pressure to maintain a heightened or enhanced image of yourself. That pressure is … Continue reading Natural
There's no sense in waiting for some outside source of motivation until you can get started in achieving your goals, because that motivation isn't always guaranteed. Just get started anyway. You'll find motivation along the way, as you get closer to your goals. The more experience you gain and achieve, the more motivation you'll get … Continue reading Motivation
The movies and media make Love seem like some rare, precious thing that is hard to come by, and even harder to keep. I believe that Love is all there is when you stop denying it. It isn't so much a matter of how to get it, but instead a matter of just allowing it. … Continue reading Love
It takes intention to choose kindness, but ultimately it's a stress-free choice. Being kind holds no dishonesty or resistance with it. Being kind helps your heart feel light and free. Sometimes being kind means separating or even ending a relationship. Sometimes being kind means not giving something materialistic to your loved one even when they … Continue reading Kindness
Your point might be justified, but if it's cruel then it doesn't matter. It is so much more important to be kind than to be right. Justice is blind, and it is necessary for society, but you are human. So act humanely. Be kind, not blindly justified.
The more you trust your instincts, the more reliable you'll find them. I believe your instincts are prompts from your higher self. They're the vibes you feel about certain situations or places, or even people. When I haven't trusted my instincts about someone, thinking I'm being too harsh and judgmental, and instead chose to trust … Continue reading Instincts
Most of us get so wrapped up in stressing over hundreds of other little life things, that we don't even give our health a second thought. We're the lucky ones. Those who have serious health concerns would love to be able to worry about anything else. Don't take your good health for granted. Take care … Continue reading Health
Greatness is a wonderful goal to aspire to. I believe that it isn't some end-goal destination. I believe greatness is achieved in your daily actions all along the journey of your life. Greatness can be found in your daily actions. Do you aspire to greatness? You can achieve it simply by doing what you do … Continue reading Greatness
If you aren't having fun, then what's the whole point? And relying on any substance or habit or condition to have fun isn't really fun. That's imprisonment. Learn to enjoy life without needing anything to make it happen. Getting to live life is fun in itself.
If you find that it feels like you're hitting your head against a wall to keep something going, end it. If holding on to an idea, a relationship, job or house feels like constant stress, end it. The fact is that one day your very life will end, and that one day could be any … Continue reading End It
In my lifetime, I've been happy-go-lucky, easygoing, not wanting to ruffle feathers, just kinda drifting, and I've also been deliberately focused, staying on track, making decisions based on what was best for me. The easygoing option might have been heavenly for the toxic people in my life, but I was stagnant and personally suffered. Being … Continue reading Deliberate
Communication is absolutely key to relationships. But it isn't just about speaking with words. We communicate with our actions, our micro-actions, and even with our energy and vibes. People, especially those close to you, can get the message from you without a single word being uttered. So, be sure you are communicating what you want … Continue reading Communication
When you want to get in a good mood, or even in a better mood, count your blessings, We all have them. We have people that we love, and routines that give us comfort, even things that make us smile. Count all of those first. Once you get good at that, you'll discover that there … Continue reading Blessings
Communication is key to good relationships. And being interested in what the other person has to say is an integral part of connecting with them. So, the best way to connect, is to ask good questions. Ask questions, and then really listen to the responses. You'll gain respect and admiration from your attention and insight. … Continue reading Ask Good Questions
Are you looking for a hero? You're it. Are you looking for a reason to be excellent? You are it. You are enough, and even more than that, you are everything. You are the whole reason for living your life. So, honor it, and go live your best life.
Being concerned with other people's opinions about you is an utter waste of time. The truth is that their opinions aren't even about you, they are about themselves and their own perspective on the world, as warped as that may be. And I've known some warped individuals. I'm sure you have, too. I've also discovered … Continue reading Waste of Time