Great Expectations

Have you heard the advice on how expectations can affect your happiness? It's usually meant to advise against setting yourself up for disappointment by having expectations that are bound to fail. And these expectations are most always about others and their behavior. But what if instead, we had expectations for how we've decided to see … Continue reading Great Expectations

Start Believing

If you're looking for harmony with others, start believing that your interactions will be harmonious. If you're looking for respect from others, start believing that people do show respect. If you're looking for understanding from others, start believing that people are inherently understanding. As with everything we experience, our relationships with other people are first … Continue reading Start Believing

Anticipation

The anticipation of something happening is almost always a much more delicious experience than the actual event. Visualizing all of the exciting recreation for that upcoming vacation, planning the wedding of the century, working towards that degree which promises so many job opportunities, or merely dreaming of the time coming up when things will finally … Continue reading Anticipation

Forgiveness is not One-and-Done

Practicing forgiveness is so important for your mental health. Forgiveness helps free you from the burden of being weighed down by anger and resentment. But it doesn't have to be such a significant and ultimate decision. I recently heard author Glennon Doyle give this great description of forgiveness. She said, Forgiveness is not a before … Continue reading Forgiveness is not One-and-Done

Practice Forgiveness

It's important to take care of yourself. And practicing forgiveness actually takes care of you more than whoever it is you should forgive. Holding on to anger, grudges and resentment affects your health, not the jerk you feel it towards. Forgive, and forgive often. I write this for myself as much as anyone reading this. … Continue reading Practice Forgiveness

Grow Through It

We grow from discomfort. We might prefer to always stay comfortable, but comfort can lead to stagnation which stops any kind of growth. And if we're not growing we're dying. Building strong muscles and a tight waistline comes from pushing past your comfort zone, lifting heavy weights, and breaking a sweat. Building new professional skills … Continue reading Grow Through It

Listen and Tune in.

Louise Hay was a wonderful author and teacher. One of my favorite books of hers, You Can Heal Your Life, has this ingenious index, where she lists common ailments you may suffer from, along with the underlying emotional cause of each particular "dis-ease." And then she offers a new thought pattern to practice and encourage … Continue reading Listen and Tune in.

Introspection

Eckhart Tolle recently brought up a famous quote from Shakespeare's Hamlet, "There is nothing either good or bad but thinking makes it so." Hamlet should know. He was an awfully introspective fellow, always dancing around in his head with those heavy thoughts of his. And the message is important. Things, experiences, situations, and relationships are … Continue reading Introspection

A circle of things

I recently heard this great piece of advice given about dealing with feeling overwhelmed with all the things to do with modern life. Essentially they said to put everything you can actually do something about into one imaginary circle, and then put everything that you cannot presently do anything about into another circle. Then just … Continue reading A circle of things

What goes on inside

I've struggled with wanting to control everything around me, thinking that way I could guarantee my happiness. But that has only just brought on more anxiety. It's impossible to anticipate and control every little thing in the world around you. Especially when dealing with a world changing global pandemic. Wayne Dyer said "You cannot always … Continue reading What goes on inside