When your thoughts and actions are in alignment with your heart's desire, achieving it feels like no effort at all. There's just so many things that are distracting us, or stressing us, or irritating us in the world now, that it's become a struggle to maintain that alignment. But alignment is the key. So it's … Continue reading Alignment
Zero Sum
Life is not a zero sum game, where there is only so much to go around. There is not some finite reservoir of "success" and "health" that gets depleted each time someone else gets a bit of it. So, why do we all get jealous of other's accomplishments as if their achievements take away from … Continue reading Zero Sum
Yesterday’s Dream
Are you moving forward, or are you stuck on still hoping for yesterday's dream to come true? Yesterday's dream is a dream you had for yourself when you were just slightly younger. But if you never did anything to move towards fulfilling that dream, and so it's still just a "dream", could it also just … Continue reading Yesterday’s Dream
Wherever
Wherever you go, there you are. And your problems and issues go along for the ride. Because your problems and issues have to do with you. They stem from you. Running away in an attempt to escape your issues, will only bring them with you to the new place. It's best to face them, see … Continue reading Wherever
Vision
Vision relates to so much more than what you can see. Vision can guide you towards greatness even when your life currently doesn't look like anything great. Vision is what you see with your mind. If you really want to help yourself to success, it's best to create a vision of what that looks like … Continue reading Vision
Underneath
Underneath all of those labels we all pile onto ourselves, lies the same spark of life as everyone else. Underneath the categories of race, gender, nationality, religion, ideology, etc. we are all just people. It's those categories and labels that we use to judge each other with. And yet, none of us want to be … Continue reading Underneath
Teachable
Our society is obsessed with youth and staying young. It's mostly for superficial reasons, and yet the best way to stay youthful is to be mentally present (hence not stuck in the past) and to remain ever teachable. There is always something new to learn as long as you don't believe you know it all … Continue reading Teachable
Safe
Feeling safe is an inherent need. But the truth is, we can't ever know every single danger that could befall us at any given moment. If we focused on all of those potential dangers we would go mad. Some people have gone mad doing it. And some people create prisons for themselves, wrapped in an … Continue reading Safe
Respect
The most effective way to gain someone's respect is to treat them with that very same level of respect. Everyone wants to feel valued and respected. Graciously extending your respect to others is a great way to earn your own from them. It's golden, just like the rule about treating others as you wish to … Continue reading Respect
Persevere
When it feels like you just don't have the strength to go on, remember that a grand act of strength isn't what will get you there, but perseverance will. Perseverance can be quiet and as slow as you need it to be, just as long as you don't give up. Persevere, taking it bit by … Continue reading Persevere
Out There
Out there is full of distractions, dream results, and disappointments. But out there is really only a reflection of what's going on inside. From inside you choose what to focus on, be it a goal or a distraction. From inside you choose what your dreams are and what achieving them looks like. And from inside … Continue reading Out There
Nice
People would prefer you to be nice. Being nice is staying quiet, being polite, and putting in the effort not to ruffle feathers. That's all well and good, but it's not always the best option. Being nice is nice, but it's not the same as being kind. Sometimes being kind means speaking up against bad … Continue reading Nice
Mortality
Mortality is a fact of life. At some point we all give up the ghost. The thing is, we get distracted into worrying about petty things, as if we're going to be living these lives forever, and wasting time is no big deal. It is a big deal if you want to make living worth … Continue reading Mortality
Listen
In order to have effective communication, you have to learn to listen just as effectively as knowing how to express yourself. And listening is not merely staying silent while the other person speaks. If you're busy silently judging or merely thinking of your response, then you're not listening. Drop all of that and listen. That's … Continue reading Listen
Knowing
It's wise to remember that what you know is only one perspective out of billions. What you know is only what you know. It may seem like what you know is what is known by everyone, but even if it is darn near identical to someone you're close to, they still will just know it … Continue reading Knowing
Joy
Life just has so much more meaning and sparkle when it's lived with joy. Joy comes from making choices that are for your highest good. Joy feels light and happy and free. Joy comes from choosing to be joyful. It doesn't just happen to you. You choose joy, and then continue to choose joy, and … Continue reading Joy
Interesting
We all want to be interesting. We all see how valuable it is to be able to capture other people's attention. And we see how distracted everyone seems from having their attention pulled in a million different directions. The most interesting thing wins, and so, we all want to be interesting. The solution is simple … Continue reading Interesting
Hope
Hope can be tricky. On the one hand, it can be your only saving grace. Holding on to hope can sometimes be the only thing that's keeping you going. On the other hand, it can end up being an unhealthy addiction. You might not choose to move on if you stay stuck holding on to … Continue reading Hope
Grief
Despite all of the wishing and all of the positive thinking that you can muster, it's just inevitable that you'll experience grief sometimes. Grief is part of the human experience. Grief comes as part of the package-deal of loss that we all risk might happen, whenever we choose to love someone or something. Grief is … Continue reading Grief
Freedom
Searching and hoping for freedom, while you essentially have it, is actually choosing bondage. You can't search for freedom and experience it at the same time. The searching implies that you don't believe you have it. We are blessed with the most important freedom there is, which is free will. Realize you have it, and … Continue reading Freedom
Everyone
Everyone has their own unique perspective. Everyone is unique, just like everyone else. It's a wonderful idea to remember when you need to find common ground with someone. The fact that they are living the human experience, just like you, with all of it's pain and glory should help you to relate. After all, everyone … Continue reading Everyone
Dreams
They say that a dream is a wish your heart makes. It sounds fantastically magical. The great thing about dreams being magic is that they don't have a specific timeline. In other words, it's never to late to go after your dreams. Even the ones you thought you had to give up, and had buried … Continue reading Dreams
Calm
Before attempting to deal with any difficult situation, it's best to focus on being calm. A calm mind is a powerful one. Being calm helps you to see the situation clearly and more objectively. Being calm helps reveal the best response. Being calm is a superpower that anyone can access if they choose it.
Bright Side
The secret is that we get to choose how we perceive everything. The strange thing is that most of us choose to see things negatively. But there's liberation, and ultimately power in choosing to look on the bright side. It's your choice. Wouldn't you rather look on the bright side?
Attitude
Your experience of anything depends on the attitude that you bring to it. Whether it's a party, a spin class, or your job, you'll either have a great time, or be miserable all because of your attitude, rather than the situation. It's your life. You have the choice to enjoy it and see the value … Continue reading Attitude
Years
The days can be long, but the years are so short. And it may seem like we've got thousands of days to live through, but in the end they add up to just a handful of years. Make the most of your days. And be grateful for every birthday you get to celebrate. Because there's … Continue reading Years
Worthy
Having self-worth comes from believing that you are worthy. That comes when you stop comparing yourself to others, and start placing value on your own merits. You are worthy, just by being yourself. So, be yourself. Be fully you. We are all unique, just like everyone else. The best way to prove that we are … Continue reading Worthy
Vision
Have a vision of what you want. Visualize how you want your life to look. Keep that vision clear and ever present in your mind. You will get inspired to the right actions that will lead you to making your vision a reality. But it all starts with a vision.
Uplift
Uplift when you can, but don't take responsibility for other people's happiness. It's very easy to confuse the two. Wanting to be someone who always uplifts those around them is commendable, but the choice to be happy is a personal one. We just can't make that choice for someone else. It's also important to be … Continue reading Uplift
Tomorrow
Tomorrow can hold so much promise and so much dread. But we never fully experience tomorrow. We live today. So, today is where our focus should be.
Sincerity
Honesty is so important, but not all honesty is needed. If it's cruel and used as a blunt-force weapon, then what good is it? What's needed much more than brutal honesty is pure sincerity. Sincerity is simply meaning what you say and saying what you mean. The thing about sincerity is that you don't need … Continue reading Sincerity
Responsibility
Ultimately you are the one who is responsible for your life and the choices you make for it. Things may happen to you, people may do bad things, but how you handle it all is your responsibility. The choices you make are your responsibility. It can seem like a lot of pressure, but it's really … Continue reading Responsibility
Patience
One of the best skills you can develop for yourself is patience. Things take time, hardly anything happens instantaneously. This means that we'll often find ourselves waiting. Having patience is learning to be at peace while you wait. Having patience helps you to enjoy life while your dreams unfold. Without patience it's all a misery. … Continue reading Patience
Organized
Whenever I'm feeling overwhelmed or even just down, I've found that a great way to switch my mood is to make sure my environment gets tidied up and organized. I believe that our environments match our state of mind. So, when my personal environment is messy, my inner world is most likely messy as well. … Continue reading Organized
Natural
Act natural. Look natural. Be natural. There's something so comfortable about being natural, because it involves no extra effort to be more than what you are. In a world filled with fake profiles and filters galore, it can be a lot of pressure to maintain a heightened or enhanced image of yourself. That pressure is … Continue reading Natural
Motivation
There's no sense in waiting for some outside source of motivation until you can get started in achieving your goals, because that motivation isn't always guaranteed. Just get started anyway. You'll find motivation along the way, as you get closer to your goals. The more experience you gain and achieve, the more motivation you'll get … Continue reading Motivation
Love
The movies and media make Love seem like some rare, precious thing that is hard to come by, and even harder to keep. I believe that Love is all there is when you stop denying it. It isn't so much a matter of how to get it, but instead a matter of just allowing it. … Continue reading Love
Kindness
It takes intention to choose kindness, but ultimately it's a stress-free choice. Being kind holds no dishonesty or resistance with it. Being kind helps your heart feel light and free. Sometimes being kind means separating or even ending a relationship. Sometimes being kind means not giving something materialistic to your loved one even when they … Continue reading Kindness
Justified
Your point might be justified, but if it's cruel then it doesn't matter. It is so much more important to be kind than to be right. Justice is blind, and it is necessary for society, but you are human. So act humanely. Be kind, not blindly justified.
Instincts
The more you trust your instincts, the more reliable you'll find them. I believe your instincts are prompts from your higher self. They're the vibes you feel about certain situations or places, or even people. When I haven't trusted my instincts about someone, thinking I'm being too harsh and judgmental, and instead chose to trust … Continue reading Instincts
Health
Most of us get so wrapped up in stressing over hundreds of other little life things, that we don't even give our health a second thought. We're the lucky ones. Those who have serious health concerns would love to be able to worry about anything else. Don't take your good health for granted. Take care … Continue reading Health
Greatness
Greatness is a wonderful goal to aspire to. I believe that it isn't some end-goal destination. I believe greatness is achieved in your daily actions all along the journey of your life. Greatness can be found in your daily actions. Do you aspire to greatness? You can achieve it simply by doing what you do … Continue reading Greatness
Fun
If you aren't having fun, then what's the whole point? And relying on any substance or habit or condition to have fun isn't really fun. That's imprisonment. Learn to enjoy life without needing anything to make it happen. Getting to live life is fun in itself.
End It
If you find that it feels like you're hitting your head against a wall to keep something going, end it. If holding on to an idea, a relationship, job or house feels like constant stress, end it. The fact is that one day your very life will end, and that one day could be any … Continue reading End It
Deliberate
In my lifetime, I've been happy-go-lucky, easygoing, not wanting to ruffle feathers, just kinda drifting, and I've also been deliberately focused, staying on track, making decisions based on what was best for me. The easygoing option might have been heavenly for the toxic people in my life, but I was stagnant and personally suffered. Being … Continue reading Deliberate
Communication
Communication is absolutely key to relationships. But it isn't just about speaking with words. We communicate with our actions, our micro-actions, and even with our energy and vibes. People, especially those close to you, can get the message from you without a single word being uttered. So, be sure you are communicating what you want … Continue reading Communication
Blessings
When you want to get in a good mood, or even in a better mood, count your blessings, We all have them. We have people that we love, and routines that give us comfort, even things that make us smile. Count all of those first. Once you get good at that, you'll discover that there … Continue reading Blessings
Ask Good Questions
Communication is key to good relationships. And being interested in what the other person has to say is an integral part of connecting with them. So, the best way to connect, is to ask good questions. Ask questions, and then really listen to the responses. You'll gain respect and admiration from your attention and insight. … Continue reading Ask Good Questions
You’re it
Are you looking for a hero? You're it. Are you looking for a reason to be excellent? You are it. You are enough, and even more than that, you are everything. You are the whole reason for living your life. So, honor it, and go live your best life.
Waste of Time
Being concerned with other people's opinions about you is an utter waste of time. The truth is that their opinions aren't even about you, they are about themselves and their own perspective on the world, as warped as that may be. And I've known some warped individuals. I'm sure you have, too. I've also discovered … Continue reading Waste of Time
Visualization
Visualization is an incredible tool that can help you manifest your dreams. Visualizing is actively creating images of the circumstances that you want. Even better, it can create the sensations of those circumstances, sort of like it's your own home-made virtual reality. When the aspects of these images and sensations become fully realized, they can … Continue reading Visualization
Unconventional
They may try to shame you for not doing things the normal way. But the truth is that life doesn't work that way. There isn't one set way on how to do things. We need creativity and variety to keep life progressing. We need people to be brave enough to be unconventional. That's what inspires. … Continue reading Unconventional
Teachable
It's silly to think that you will always be right. For one thing, life would be pretty dreary if there was nothing new to learn and surprise you. For another, you'd find that nobody would want to be around you for long. It's far better to keep an open mind and remain teachable, even into … Continue reading Teachable
Sometimes
Sometimes you'll feel pure bliss. Sometimes you'll be overwhelmed with dread. Sometimes you'll feel so excited to be living your life that you can't stand it. Sometimes you'll wish you didn't have to feel your feelings at all. Life isn't static, and to live it means you'll constantly be awash in any number and variety … Continue reading Sometimes
Release
Release the past. Release the pain that you're holding onto. I know you want to feel vindicated. I know you want to protect yourself from getting hurt like that again. But holding onto the pain and reliving the past is only causing you to hurt yourself. Release it. Move forward and don't look back. Release … Continue reading Release
Possibilities
You may get stuck wondering about what are the possibilities for your success in a certain career, or town, or community. But the only way to know if there are possibilities is to believe in them. Believe that it's possible and it becomes possible. It has to start with you, and with what you believe … Continue reading Possibilities
Ordinary
I don't think you have to reinvent the wheel, so to speak, in order to have an incredible life. You just need to show up to your life, every day, and do all the ordinary things it requires of you, but do them extraordinarily well. It's adding that extra to it, that makes your life … Continue reading Ordinary
Narrative
They say that people don't change, just like a leopard doesn't change its spots. But I believe you can change, it just takes a lot of self reflection and then dedication to the change. Our personalities are basically the result of the story we keep telling. It's the narrative of "who we are" that determines … Continue reading Narrative
Magic
Magic can be found in simple, everyday moments. It's in the paying attention, in full awareness as the moments unfold, that you realize how magical life is. We are energetic beings surging with a life-force we've been given for a short amount of time. We can laugh, cry, scream and sing all within the same … Continue reading Magic
Life
Life is a mystery. Yet it doesn't need to be fully understood to be meaningful. The mystery of life doesn't have to be solved before you can enjoy it. If you just practice forgiveness, express gratitude, and be a light to others, you'll have more than enough to understand that the meaning of life is … Continue reading Life
Kindness is the Way
More than anything else, what the world needs now is more kindness. More than any kind of shaming, or blaming, everyone could use a lot more kindness in their lives. It doesn't cost anything to be kind, but the value is priceless. All it takes, is a willingness to ease up on insisting on being … Continue reading Kindness is the Way
Jump for Joy
The most magnetic people are the joyful ones. And the thing is, they aren't exclusively entitled to joy. Every one of us can be joyful. Joy isn't randomly gifted to you. You get to choose joy, for yourself, at any time. You don't need to wait for certain circumstances to happen before you can be … Continue reading Jump for Joy
Invest
Are you spending your time and energy needlessly, or are you investing them? When you invest in something, you do so in exchange for value and a profit. Spending simply expends your assets. Your time and energy are finite and precious. Choose to invest them in quality endeavors, like knowledge, skills, and mostly in valued … Continue reading Invest
Health
Health is something we should all value and invest in while we have it. Too many people don't realize the value of good health until it's gone. Too many people treat their health as if it's always going to hold up no matter how much they neglect it. Our health is a gift that should … Continue reading Health
Good Intentions
Good intentions are nice and all, but it's ultimately your actions that count. You could have intended to be this generous, kind and compassionate person, but if you did nothing to show it, then it doesn't matter. You may think that all you have to do is say the words "I'm sorry" and intend to … Continue reading Good Intentions
Feel it Real
In order to manifest something into your life, you have to mentally visualize it, and also feel it as if it's already happening. When you connect your head and heart and feel it real, then it has to show up for you. It can't show up if you don't feel like it's possible. It has … Continue reading Feel it Real
Excited
There's just something about feeling excited that makes me feel so happy to be alive. Kids are pros at it. They get excited about play-dates, birthdays, and summer vacations! I remember as a kid being so excited during the month of May, anticipating the end of the school year, and thinking about fun days featuring … Continue reading Excited
Dreams
We all have dreams for ourselves and for how we would like life to turn out. You can keep them to yourself, and let them stay as dreams. You can also pursue them, and work to make them a reality. The cool part is that the choice is all yours.
Chances
You may think that you only have one or two chances at doing something great in your life, or for meeting the right person, or for choosing the most suitable career. You may be worried that if your timing is off when your "ship comes in," that you'll blow it, and then there goes your … Continue reading Chances
Bit by Bit
Your goals are achieved by progressively taking small actions bit by bit. You are more likely to improve through small forward steps, not by some huge quantum leap. It's when you take it bit by bit that you can be sure to get it done. You're also much more likely to be present with your … Continue reading Bit by Bit
Adaptable
The superpower that has helped humans survive and thrive is their ability to adapt. Being adaptable is your ace in the hole for navigating all of the massive and minuscule changes that our society is going through. It's when we forget that we can adapt that these changes become unbearable. When we try to hold … Continue reading Adaptable
Yesterday
Yesterday is over and done. The only thing it can do for you now, is show you how much you've grown. There isn't much use in spending too much time looking back at it, because you don't live there anymore. Let yesterday go, and enjoy the present. After all, today is what you were dreaming … Continue reading Yesterday
Words
According to the saying, sticks and stones may break my bones, but words will never hurt me. That's a nice sentiment, and it's meant to give you encouragement against gossip and criticism. However, I believe that words do have power. They can create or destroy. They do that by encouraging your own beliefs. So the … Continue reading Words
Variety
They say that variety is the spice of life. It's true, nobody wants to be stuck in a rut, so it's important to change things up every now and then. But it's also important to stay true to your values. Don't just spice it up for the sake of variety. Remember who you are, and … Continue reading Variety
Urgency
Customer service is a tough gig. It's one of the toughest gigs to do in modern society. But sadly, the people mostly responsible for making it such a hard job, are the ones doing it. The lack of urgency, attention, and dignity that most people bring to their customer service job creates a stigma that … Continue reading Urgency
Truth
Make it simple, and tell the truth. That way you don't have to work at concocting some elaborate tale. The truth may not be pretty and it may not be entirely comfortable, but it is the easiest and kindest thing you can say. Now, all of that is true, but it still needs a caveat. … Continue reading Truth
Silence
Sometimes silence is the best response you can give. Because silence isn't an empty answer. And because sometimes they don't even bother to hear your words when you use them. But if you give silence, they'll most likely get the message.
Reputation
It takes work, commitment and growth to build a stellar reputation. Some say that your reputation is your most valuable asset. But it's important to realize that your reputation is ultimately only what others think about you. And you can't always control that. It's far better to focus on your character. Your character is who … Continue reading Reputation
Plans
It's nice to have a plan, and it's important to have a sense of direction for your life. Just don't get so stuck on the plan, that life passes you by. Plans are definitely a good thing, but ultimately it's results that count in life. Sometimes the best thing about a plan is the fact … Continue reading Plans
Obstacles
The road we travel on as we go through life is not always smooth. That's a good thing. Every obstacle we face can be looked at as an opportunity to pivot, get creative, to grow and get stronger. If we choose to, we end up getting better from each obstacle that we face along the … Continue reading Obstacles
Network
There's that old saying for business success, "it's not what you know, it's who you know." Your network is your most valuable asset. As it should be. People matter so much more than anything material. And when things take a dip, so to speak, it's your network that will be your saving grace. And things … Continue reading Network
Momentum
It's wise when taking on life-goal types of things, to just focus on one day at a time. But, the key is to keep at it, day by day. Progress is greatly supported through momentum. Momentum leads to more momentum. Once you stop it, you have to start all over. Of course, that's not the … Continue reading Momentum
Lift others
The best way to elevate your life is to lift others up whenever you can. We are all in this thing together. We all need each other. Lift each other up when you can. When we lift up others, we rise up with them.
Knowing
It may seem like knowing all of the right answers is the goal to a happy life, but that's an unobtainable goal. It is far wiser to know that you can't know everything. And even when you know something, it's important to know that there is always more to the story. Ultimately, happiness requires that … Continue reading Knowing
Joy
When you stop waiting for things to happen before you can be happy, and start becoming aware of how good things already are, that's when you feel joy. Joy is a choice you can make at any time, no matter what. In fact joy must always be a choice that you choose. Once you choose … Continue reading Joy
Introspection
To grow as a person, it's important to take time and reflect on who you are inside. With introspection comes personal growth, and that plus experience, leads to wisdom. Yet, for some reason or another, most of us do the opposite. We busy ourselves with all sorts of outside distractions. Focusing too much on what's … Continue reading Introspection
Habitual
Who we are ultimately comes down to our habits. What we habitually do and habitually think determines what our personality becomes. The good news about this, is that habits are formed by us, and if a habit isn't serving us, we can change it. We can change our habits by adopting new habits in their … Continue reading Habitual
Giving
It's not only better to give than to receive, it is the way to receiving. When you show that you are blessed enough to be able to give a helping hand, or a financial gift, or even your own time, then you show yourself that you are abundant in those things. This holds you in … Continue reading Giving
Freedom
Anything you try to control, controls you. Holding on to any kind of resentment towards someone keeps you chained to the hurt. Looking backwards doesn't keep you safe, it keeps you stuck. Freedom comes from forgiveness. Freedom comes from letting go, looking ahead, and having faith that you will be okay. Face forward, forgive easily, … Continue reading Freedom
Evolve
Everything in this world is constantly changing. We can't resit this, so we either evolve as we go along, or we deteriorate. Nothing is static. Nothing stays frozen in time. I mean there are days when my hair looks just right, and I wish I could just freeze it to stay put. But then I'd … Continue reading Evolve
Decide
In order to achieve anything in life, you have to first decide that you are going to move in a certain direction. Then you just need to proceed towards that end, until you've achieved it. But it's important to always remember that you made the decision in the first place. You had the power to … Continue reading Decide
Courage
In order to enjoy your life, you need to show up for it. Sometimes that takes great courage to face the fears, obstacles and a whole gamut of emotions that may make your life seem chaotic. But you do need to face it all. Avoiding or denying can only prolong the misery. There are times … Continue reading Courage
Beginner’s Luck
I'm not sure if there really is such a thing as "beginner's luck," but I am sure that those who actually begin moving towards their goals, significantly swing the odds in their favor more than those who only wish and dream about it. So, begin. Start small, but do start moving towards achieving your goals, … Continue reading Beginner’s Luck
Act Now
It just doesn't work to only sit around thinking about how you're going to create your life. You have to get up and do it. Action brings you the clarity you're looking for. Action creates your life. I have to remind myself of this often, because I tend to live up inside my head most … Continue reading Act Now
Your Story
Your story is important. Your story is valid, and valuable. Your story matters. But the person who is most affected by your story, is yourself. More importantly is how you tell your story to yourself. Your life is shaped by it. And, above all, it should be remembered that it is just a story. It … Continue reading Your Story
Wisdom
Chances are, you're going to be wrong a lot of the time. Especially as you evolve and grow you'll realize that in order to learn, you're probably going to get it wrong, mostly, until suddenly you don't. It's when you acknowledge that you don't always know the right answer, that you show you've gained wisdom. … Continue reading Wisdom
Values
Creating your ideal life might just be broken down into a simple formula. First you need to define what you want. Then you need to figure out why you want it. Why you want it is based on your own personal set of values. So, get clear on your values, and it can help you … Continue reading Values
Unity
Ultimately I believe we need to start thinking in terms or unity as a human race, if we're ever going to have a chance for survival amidst all of the ongoing climate, culture and population changes. Underneath all of our differences, we are all humans, just the same, who all love, laugh and cry in … Continue reading Unity
Time
Time is such a precious commodity, and yet it can be so wastefully spent. The thing about time is that each day, the same amount is given to everybody, no matter who they are. And once it's spent, it's gone. That's true for everybody as well. None of us have an unlimited supply, and every … Continue reading Time
Seasons
Seasons continually change. You can count on that. So, if you're going through a bitter and cold Winter season of your life, you can bet that eventually you'll see it end to make way for the lovely days of Spring. But, it's equally true that if you're having the most delicious kind of Summer season, … Continue reading Seasons
