We are meant to love while we are here. It isn't as complicated as people think. It isn't meant to be as complex or big or difficult as people think. It's the most natural thing to be. Be love. Give love. Receive love. Love. Start the new year out with more love in your life.
Tag: Human Relations
Behave
Do you ever notice how when someone expects you to behave properly, it's only to accommodate their comfort? It seems selfish. Perhaps you should remember that whenever you expect someone else to behave.
Teams
In order for a team to work effectively, all members need to acknowledge and realize that they are a part of the team! And, everyone is on a team of one form or another. No one ever really acts alone. Embrace your team.
Help Them
Help when you can, however you can. The time will come when you'll need help from someone else. Why else do you think we're all here, if not to help each other? If we didn't need each other, there would be no reason to exist together. So, do your part, and help when you can.
People
Whether you consider yourself a "people person" or not, the fact is that we need people to accomplish anything in our world. Even with all of the advances in automated technology, it was people who created it, and people who continue to coordinate it. It's because of people that this technology is needed, and it's … Continue reading People
Listen
The most effective strategy for any successful interaction is to simply listen. It's simple, but it doesn't seem to be easy. This is because most of the time we tend to only listen to the constant chatter of our own inner voice. If you learn to take your attention away from that for a bit, … Continue reading Listen
Compassion
Compassion is something we all appreciate, and frankly, expect from others when we need it. The thing about that is, we need to give it as often as we expect it. Compassion is the glue that keeps societies together.
Visibility
You will always need help from others in any venture you take. We need people. But, they aren't just waiting around for a signal that you need help. You need to put yourself out there. Visibility is vital to getting the attention and assistance you need.
Utility
Something has "utility," when it provides value, like running water in a home. Each one of us provide utility to the world as a whole. We each have value because we're here. And, despite the current societal trend, we all need each other. There's a need for each and every person to add their value, … Continue reading Utility
Friends
Friends are possibly the greatest gift you can get for being human. That's why we're all here, after all. To be friends with each other. To teach and learn from one another. And, the best part is when friends become so close that they're family. Our family aren't always our friends, but when our friends … Continue reading Friends
Teach
The best way to excel at your skills is to teach them to someone else. It all seems to go back to the idea of giving away what want to have more of. Teaching someone else helps you to clarify what it is in your own words. And, it helps to show yourself just how … Continue reading Teach
Help Someone
Help someone else, even if it's just to offer a sympathetic ear. Not only does your act help them, it can help you too. Helping others can pull you out of your own isolation. It also shows everyone, most importantly yourself, that the world has people in it willing to help.
Energy
Energy is the currency of exchange for human relations. We willingly give our energy to those we love and it empowers them. While our energy is taken from us by those we are in competition with, leaving us feeling drained. Much like any currency, we only have a set amount each day, so it's important … Continue reading Energy
Distance
Distance is not dependent upon logistics. You can be miles away from someone, and yet feel them right there in your heart. Or, you can be sitting next someone and they may as well be in another galaxy. Logistics is not the determining factor in distance. Consciousness is.
Understand
We all want to be understood. It starts when you decide to understand someone else. Extend to them the same courtesy you would like to receive. Teach them how it's done. Then you're golden.
Trust
Trust is a vital, yet extremely delicate bond we share with other. Guard it as the precious gift that it is. Once its lost, you can never get it back. Not in the original packaging at least.
Subscriptions
We tend to subscribe to a lot more than we need to. Not just for services and mailing lists, but to social patterns as well. And, just like those pesky mailing lists, not all of them align with who we are anymore. So, if you're over going along with "the way things are done around … Continue reading Subscriptions
Yellow Light
We all love a green light, as it means we get to go. And, it's pretty clear that when a red light shines, it means to stop even when we'd rather not. But, the yellow light seems to confuse most. And, that makes total sense in today's society. The yellow light means you should slow … Continue reading Yellow Light
Visit
It's like a real science fiction movie out there. People are glued to tiny little screens. They'd rather live inside those screens than interact with the real-life people in their world. But, those real-life people have an expiration date. Especially the older and more dear ones you know, who have lived a whole full life … Continue reading Visit
Underneath
Everyone wears some kind of mask. Some appear charming or friendly, others angry or aggressive. Some seem like helpless victims, others appear powerful. Ultimately, they're all just masks. Look past the mask, and see who's underneath. That's where the real person lies.
Kindness
Kindness is the way to save the world. People may not deserve your kindness, but they need it, desperately. That's why one of the greatest teachers in history insisted on spreading kindness, even though they still crucified him. It seems like these days even your neighbors seem unworthy of kindness. But the only way to … Continue reading Kindness
Interviews
A simple yet important piece of advice in preparing for an interview... Always, always remember that it goes both ways. You may be trying hard to present yourself as the ideal candidate for the company or school you're inerviewing for, but make sure that you pay equal attention to what they're offering. You matter. And, … Continue reading Interviews
Help
A funny thing happens in human relations regarding help. In order to get help, you need to ask for it. But, you won't be able to bring yourself to ask for it, unless you trust another to give it. And, usually when you end up in a situation needing help, it's because you've lost trust, … Continue reading Help
Goodwill
If you're like a lot of people, you believe that this world needs humanity to show more acts of goodwill with each other. So, what's stopping you from setting an example? Be the change that you want to see in the world. Consciously extend goodwill to your fellow man. After all, someone has to get … Continue reading Goodwill
Carefully
You want your personal business handled carefully. You want others to be thoughtful when dealing with things that relate to your life. Well, you're a part of the whole deal in this world. What's good for you is good for others. Treat other people's business as carefully as you want them to treat yours.
Your Choice
Your choice should matter. You should be able to have a say, and have that be acknowledged. And if you honor this, then you must also honor the fact that it applies to everyone else as well.
Sunshine
If you've ever met someone who felt like sunshine to be around, then you know how they seem to always brighten up the moment, making you feel happy, safe and warm. You know how incredibly special that person is. The truth is they've made a choice to be like that. They've chosen to be like … Continue reading Sunshine
Listen
A huge part of the success in relationships is effective communication. And the most powerful aspect of effective communication is active listening. The best way to listen is to listen with your heart. Listen with your heart, and you're bound to stay on the right track in your relationships.
Help
Help another whenever you can. It's a lesson that too many of us learn too late. Help when you can, because you will for sure need help yourself one day, and you'll be praying that someone will be there to help you when they can. So, remember that, as you may be someone's only saving … Continue reading Help
Peace
We are all connected. So, whatever is going on within you has an affect on everyone else on the planet. That's part of the whole being connected thing. And so, if you aren't feeling peaceful in your own life, there's no chance for peace in the world. It all starts with you. And me. And … Continue reading Peace
Care
You obviously do care, or you wouldn't try so hard to look like you don't. For some reason it isn't cool to show that you obviously care. It's much cooler to act like it doesn't matter one bit to you if others are suffering. But that isn't cool it's cold. And it's artificial. We're naturally … Continue reading Care
Communication
The reason why they say that communication is key to relationships, is that communication is happening all the time. Whether you're talking or not, being upfront or withholding, you are communicating something. The absolute best thing you can do for yourself and for your relationships is to make sure that you're conscious of exactly what … Continue reading Communication
Nice
Being nice seems to get a bad rap these days. But I believe it's because most people think they're being conned when someone appears to be too nice. That's because a lot of people that appear to be nice are faking it for ulterior motives. Also, not that many people act nice anymore, so it's … Continue reading Nice
Interesting
If you want to be interesting, it's simple. All you need to do is become actively interested in others. There's nothing more appealing, or interesting than a person who is joyfully interested in you.
Define Yourself
You don't have to be who you are according to someone else's definition. Define yourself. Live your life according to your terms, as long as it is moral, and doesn't affect anyone else's morality. It goes both ways. You don't want someone else to dictate how you live your life. You don't want someone else … Continue reading Define Yourself
Everyone
Everyone has dreams. Everyone has likes and dislikes. Everyone wants to be treated with dignity and respect. Everyone means everyone, even those people you want so badly to demonize because it makes it easier to discount them. But they all have dreams, likes and dislikes, and wish to be treated with the same dignity and … Continue reading Everyone
Viewpoints
Whenever I'm struggling, in particular with feeling way too righteous, it's because I've temporarily forgotten that there are several viewpoints to any issue, not just my own. We could all benefit from remembering this. We all have our own viewpoints on issues. This doesn't mean they are all correct, but they do all exist. Denying … Continue reading Viewpoints
Under the Same Moon
How can we seem to be living in entirely different worlds from each other when we're all really just on the one planet, under the same moon? The truth is, it is one planet with billions of people, and just as many different perspectives. That can be an excuse for divisiveness and separate agendas. And … Continue reading Under the Same Moon
Understand
Anger is a cover for fear. And we fear what we don't understand. So, to put it very plain and simple, we need to make more of an effort to understand each other. Otherwise we'll just keep on fearing each other for what we don't understand, and pretending that we're righteously angry.
Lighten Up
The fact is that we're all stuck with each other on this planet, and life is short. It does nobody any good to take themselves so seriously. Lighten up already. It's a short ride, and it's packed to the gills. You might as well enjoy it while you have the chance.
Interested
The way to make yourself interesting to others is really simple. You need to be genuinely interested in them! People love to be able to talk about themselves, so if you get interested in what they have to say, and really listen, they will automatically be drawn to you, The bonus to this is, when … Continue reading Interested
Say it
Say the thing you keep meaning to say before it's too late. Say it. Say it in a kind way, not in a brutally blunt way. But, don't dance around what you mean either. If you don't say it, people will still feel like you want to say something but are holding back. They'll feel … Continue reading Say it
Decency
Sometimes it's just a matter of thinking about decency which then inspires one to act decently. Decency is always a welcomed vibe. It's just that people need to be reminded of that in order to bring it back. So, here's the reminder. Let's remember to bring decency to our interactions with each other.
Considerate
Being considerate entails being thoughtful. Yet, all of those busy, cluttered minds out there, also seem to be thoughtless. Being considerate is such a rare thing these days, that it's often equated with a grand gesture of love. It is loving, but it's also completely natural. Or it's supposed to be. Let's make being considerate … Continue reading Considerate
Yakety-Yak
How often do you truly listen to others? Are you really listening to what they're saying? Or does it all sound like so much yakety-yak, because all you're doing is waiting for a pause until you can speak? And really, do you think they're even listening to you when it's your turn, or might you … Continue reading Yakety-Yak
United
We may seem divided on the surface, but that's just the surface. Looks can be deceiving. The truth is, that no matter how many superficial differences people can concoct, underneath it all we are all united as the same human race. We are all connected and share the same basic human experience. That really should … Continue reading United
Trust
Trust requires faith on one side, and honesty on the other. It can be a long, winding road to build trust, and a split-second fall to lose it. It's a powerful bridge, and yet so fragile that it requires extra special care. Trust is precious gift. Use it in faith. Cherish it. Protect it. Don't … Continue reading Trust
Mostly
We get into trouble when we pin high expectations on others. Nobody is perfect, yet we expect others to act that way around us. Just as bad, we expect ourselves to be perfect, but we're not. We are human and that's good enough. You can even be an angel most of the time, but that … Continue reading Mostly
Interesting
The key to being interesting to other people, is to show interest in them first. People bond over a common cause, and the most compelling cause for someone is themselves. Show interest in that, and you'll have them showing real interest in you.
Knowing
It's wise to remember that what you know is only one perspective out of billions. What you know is only what you know. It may seem like what you know is what is known by everyone, but even if it is darn near identical to someone you're close to, they still will just know it … Continue reading Knowing
Everyone
Everyone has their own unique perspective. Everyone is unique, just like everyone else. It's a wonderful idea to remember when you need to find common ground with someone. The fact that they are living the human experience, just like you, with all of it's pain and glory should help you to relate. After all, everyone … Continue reading Everyone
Communication
Communication is absolutely key to relationships. But it isn't just about speaking with words. We communicate with our actions, our micro-actions, and even with our energy and vibes. People, especially those close to you, can get the message from you without a single word being uttered. So, be sure you are communicating what you want … Continue reading Communication
Lift others
The best way to elevate your life is to lift others up whenever you can. We are all in this thing together. We all need each other. Lift each other up when you can. When we lift up others, we rise up with them.
Note to Self
Note to self: You matter. You still matter even if they don't agree with you. You still matter even if you don't jump to let them know how you disagree with them. And for the sake of your own peace, you should try to let it go more often. Arguing usually does more harm than … Continue reading Note to Self
Engaging
In order to appear engaging to others, you need to make an effort to be engaged with what's going on with them. In other words, you need to be interested in others, if you want them to care about whatever you have to offer. There's that old saying about catching more flies with honey than … Continue reading Engaging
Kindness
When it comes to relating with others, the best choice to make is to choose kindness. When you have a choice between being right or being kind, choose kindness. Making the choice to be kind can brighten your day, and then ripple out to improve the whole world. It doesn't cost anything to choose kindness, … Continue reading Kindness
Humanity
It feels like humans are all up in everyone else's business online, dissecting every word and action, and yet in real life they ignore each other, thoughtlessly moving through others like they're merely obstacles. Courtesy seems to be a lost art form. Technology is eroding humanity. Perhaps we should switch our focus away from online, … Continue reading Humanity
Benefits
A couple of benefits from having a dedicated meditation practice: When you train your brain to slow down and focus on the present moment during meditation, it carries over into the rest of your day. You start to find that your awareness is almost ahead of the frenzy of life happening all around you. It's … Continue reading Benefits
Energy
Trust the energy. If something doesn't feel right, don't ignore that feeling. If it feels like a struggle when interacting with someone, pay attention and find out what that strained feeling is telling you. Maybe it's a warning to avoid that person. Or perhaps it's indicating that this person is a perfect teacher for you … Continue reading Energy
Friendly Suggestion
You don't have to hold an opinion about every topic that comes your way. It's just not possible to know everything there is to know about every little thing, so most of the time any opinion that you're defending is simply on shaky ground. That's a weak stance to maintain. That weakness can breed insecurity. … Continue reading Friendly Suggestion
Folks
Our minds are powerful creative forces. What we think about with our minds is what we bring to us. What we focus upon expands. It's important to have an awareness of this, to think about what we do want, and to focus on all that is going right. Equally, we shouldn't waste any time on … Continue reading Folks
Super
Empathy is a superpower. One that I believe we are all gifted with, but must each individually develop to it's full power. Empathy is the power that will heal the divide of our society. But just like we learn from all of those Marvel movies and CW shows, it takes bravery to stand up and … Continue reading Super
Self Respect
We need people. We need to develop, foster, and nurture our relationships. Relationships are vital. They are the foundation of a successful and joyous life. But if you find yourself in a situation that's possibly toxic, where you do not want to know the people around you, and you just want to retreat and isolate … Continue reading Self Respect
Opinions
Engaging in conflict with someone over their views is purely an exercise trying to control them. Which you'll never do from arguing with them. You'll just start a fight. The struggle you feel is because you want to control their opinion, even more than you actually want them to agree with you. Because if they're … Continue reading Opinions
Simple
Human relations can be so simple. They might not be easy, but they are certainly simple if we remember that we all just want to be respected and acknowledged. If we want to be treated with respect, then we might remember that everyone else wants to be treated with respect as well. So, it's simple. … Continue reading Simple
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