You don’t have to be who you are according to someone else’s definition.
Live your life according to your terms, as long as it is moral, and doesn’t affect anyone else’s morality.
It goes both ways.
You don’t want someone else to dictate how you live your life. You don’t want someone else to control you and your actions.
So, treat others in kind.
Extend to them the same respect and chance at liberty that you wish for yourself.
As long as that’s covered, then go forth and define your life for yourself.