Eventually, in one way or another, you're going to figure it out. And, you may realize that you don't need to have it all figured out in order to have a happy life. That's when you've really figured it out.

Unless you can explain it with ease, from all aspects of it, you don't know exactly what you're talking about. There's always more to the story. Don't take snippets of gossip and hearsay and run with it as if you're suddenly an authority. Because ignorance has gotten to a shameful level in this modern society … Continue reading Explain it →

Details can either be your greatest help or they can be your downfall. Sometimes having a lock on the details can help solve a critical issue. Sometimes you can get locked up in the details, missing the overall point. As with anything, it comes down to how you look at it.

Your ability to breathe is your most valuable gift. Imagine having that taken away, anything else is worthless in comparison. It might be wise to start appreciating your breath. Start with that and see what you're led to appreciate next. Soon, you'll have a life filled with appreciation for countless blessings, all the way until … Continue reading Breath →

April always brings with it a distinct sense of change in the air. The days finally start to feel longer and sunnier after a cold, dark winter. Spring does its thing, opening flowers and new life all around. And, suddenly you realize you're deep into the year that you thought had only just begun. Summer … Continue reading April →

Sure, it's important to know how to effectively say "No" to what you don't want, and to establish boundaries. But it's even more important to know what you want to say "Yes" to, and to make those things be your primary focus. When you're living in your world of "Yes," you don't have to worry … Continue reading Yes and No →

If you can imagine surviving the worst case scenario, then you can handle anything. And it's highly unlikely you'll ever see the worst case. Might as well drop all thoughts of that, and turn your direction completely around. Start imagining the best case scenario, in all endeavors. Make your focus be on the best outcome, … Continue reading Worst Case →

Victory is achieved when you overcome an enemy. Truly the one you need to achieve victory from the most is your own negative thoughts of self. And you don't overcome that through battle, you overcome it through compassion and understanding. Once again, what's needed here is love. All you need is love. Love is all … Continue reading Victory →

Sometimes great things can be created under pressure, like a pearl or diamond. Sometimes things can breakdown under pressure, like a relationship, or a person. You don't always have to go crazy trying to become a diamond, when you should just appreciate being human.

Sometimes the greatest show of strength is allowing your weakness to be revealed. We're taught to put on a image that we're strong, so we can be safe in a hostile world. But, what if the way to ease the hostility, is if we all let our guards down, and show our vulnerability? It's true … Continue reading Strong →

If you don't respect yourself, you will not get it from anyone else. First of all, you wouldn't accept it even if someone tried to give it, because you don't respect yourself. And not having self-respect broadcasts a message that it's fine if you're disrespected. It all starts with you, and how you treat yourself.

It's important to remember that what may seem to be ordinary to you, could very well be absolutely exotic to someone else. Your "normal" is only what you're used to. And what's foreign to you now, could be ordinary within a few months. Ordinary, much like beauty, is merely in the eye of the beholder. … Continue reading Ordinary →

Something becomes a nuisance when you have an expectation of it happening in a different way. So, really, you're the creator of the nuisance because you're the creator of the expectation. You're in charge of your experience. Take it easy.

Loneliness isn't so much of a social problem, as it is a creativity problem. It just takes a bit of imagination and curiosity for the world around you to realize that loneliness is simply just an option. And there are so many other, better ones to choose from.

A keepsake is something that holds sentimental value. But it's important to note that the object by itself holds no such thing. It is only what emotion you tie it to that makes it a keepsake. So if you lost the keepsake, or it was destroyed somehow, the emotional memory you had tied to it … Continue reading Keepsake →

Judging someone else is more about you in the end than it is about them. You're judging them as compared to your own self-judgment and how it aligns. You're judging them as a way to distract yourself from your negative thoughts about yourself. Or you're judging them based on how you think others will judge … Continue reading Judging →

It's worth considering if something is going to cost you, or if it is an investment. This is especially vital when it comes to a finite resource like time. You only get so much of it. Are you willing to pay the price of simply spending it, or do you want to make an investment … Continue reading Investment →

We all appreciate the helpers of society, the ones who are there for the unfortunate during a crisis. They're so needed. The thing is, someone has to be one, we can't all just stand by and appreciate them. In order for there to be helpers, there need to be volunteers to jump in and help. … Continue reading Helpers →

There's that famous quote about if you fall down seven times, get back up eight. Life is all about stumbling, fumbling and falling down, and your part in it is that you get back up. That's how you grow, that's how you learn, and that's how you know how good it can be, how good … Continue reading Get Back Up →

Remember, you don't know the whole story about anybody. All you can ever know about somebody is a tiny excerpt from a vast and expansive life. So, don't jump to conclusions. Or, if you do, you do it at the risk of being the ass in an assumption. There's so much more to the story … Continue reading Excerpt →

Every choice is easy when you remember to keep your dignity in making it. There's usually only one option where your dignity stays intact. If you have to sacrifice your dignity, then you should be asking if it's really worth the cost. Because once you lose it, you don't get it back, or not the … Continue reading Dignity →

Celebrate the milestones. Celebrate the wins. Celebrate the triumphs. Celebrate the precious moments shared with loved ones. We don't always get another chance to do so. And we only get one life. So, if you want it to be a joyous one, celebrate it.

We are all meant to be builders of our own incredible lives. You make it hard on yourself to do this when you are so focused on what everyone else is doing, especially people who have no idea that you even exist. If you feel lost, it's because you're off track. Get back to building … Continue reading Builders →

It's important to remember that no matter how impressive, if something is "artificial" that means it isn't the real thing. And nothing will compare to the real thing, even with all of it's human foibles. After all, the almighty creator is responsible for the real thing, not anything artificial.

They say that youth is wasted on the young, but truly, they can have it. Because with youth there is a lot of inexperience, ignorance and insecurity. And that's important, because all of those things motivate you to grow. In youth it is the perfect time to establish healthy ways to grow into your best … Continue reading Youth →

We're sold a lot of products and techniques in order to help keep our outside appearance looking acceptable. And, "acceptable" apparently means as young as possible, but in your prime, tan but not too dark, fit but "fit" per the current trend. It can be a full-time job just to keep up. It's all backwards … Continue reading Underneath →

Stress is a killer. You could eat the most healthy nutritious diet. You could hydrate perfectly. You could exercise, even stretch regularly, but if you don't have your stress levels in check, all those other things will only stave off an inevitably bitter end. Life brings stress, but you don't have to keep it. Learn … Continue reading Stress →

Like it or not, you bring with you a unique presence that is unmistakable. Hopefully you like this, and that means you've consciously thought about your presence and what it projects. You shouldn't be artificial, and you needn't be extra. You should just be deliberately, unapologetically you. Let your presence be known.

We all have obligations we're duty-bound to fulfill, even though we'd rather have what we think is freedom. But it's those very obligations that enable us to enjoy the freedoms we have. And, we still have a choice whether or not to honor these obligations. Not everyone has that choice. Our obligations are better than … Continue reading Obligations →

You get a chance for a new day each time you wake up to it. This won't always be the case. But while it is, cherish those new days. Cherish the chance of untold possibilities that each new day brings. And live it up.

Knowledge is power, but only when you use it. It's important to combine it with wisdom, in order to be able to use it best. Hoarding it for its own sake is foolish, as knowledge is most valuable when shared. It's a perfect aid for human relations. This is because knowledge is most effective when … Continue reading Knowledge →

Joyful living is a lifestyle choice. It's like physical fitness, you do it to have a better quality of life. It sustains you. But you have to keep at it, or else you'll fall out of shape, and much quicker than you would hope you would. So, much like physical fitness, you have to show … Continue reading Joyful Living →

Hold on until the ride is over. Don't let go before it does. It may seem daunting, but it's a ride after all, so there will be ups and downs. All you have to do is hold on, the ride itself takes you through the adventure. The ride is call life. Your life is the … Continue reading Hold On →

Generosity can't be faked. If you're giving for the sake of appearing generous, then that's not exactly generous. That is transactional. It's fine, as long as this is understood by all parties. Generosity is given purely for the sake of expressing love and affection. It is more rare than you might think, but this also … Continue reading Generosity →

The word "express" has a few meanings. One being to communicate your thoughts. Another is to operate at high speed, like on an expressway. Both meanings define extremely relevant values for modern society. We need things to deliver at an express rate. And because we are so globally interconnected, it is imperative that we express … Continue reading Express →

Confidence is an extremely powerful value. That's why your confidence is always under attack. You can't be scared or influenced unless your confidence is weakened. And so, you're bombarded with all kinds of messaging, showing you how inadequate you are, how flawed, all so that you will willingly subscribe to certain groups or buy certain … Continue reading Confidence →

The first gatekeeper you need to get past before you can belong, is your own self and your preconceived ideas about your worthiness. Really, the only gatekeeper you need to worry about getting past before you belong is yourself. Because once you believe in your own worth, you will go to the best place for … Continue reading Belong →

If you want to improve, you need to aspire to something greater than you currently are. Aspire to something grand. And then, and here's the important part, take action towards it. Keep actively moving towards it, and eventually you'll get there, or to something even better.

Yoga can be great for helping with your flexibility. And that relates to your mind as well as your body. There's a quote that goes something like, Yoga isn't just about touching your toes, it's about what you learn on the way down to them. It's just a great way to integrate you mind and … Continue reading Yoga →

When you feel desperate or confused and you don't know what can help, write. When you're not sure exactly what to say, start writing. Writing will help you clarify your thoughts and come up with the right words. It's exercise for the part of your brain that communicates. Much like lifting weights will tone your … Continue reading Write →

Technically speaking, it's impossible to undo something because it's already been done. Time only moves forward. There isn't a rewind button for real life. The best you can do is to redo it. Or do it again, but better this time. So, in summary, what was already done is done. You can't undo it, but … Continue reading Undo →

There are some tasks we have to do that are just tedious. But, we have to do them in order to keep life running smoothly. As with everything, it's how you look at it. These tedious tasks could be looked at as boring, miserable, and burdens. Or they can be looked at as beneficial, easy, … Continue reading Tedious →

Survival can be thought of as an act of love for yourself. Surviving is active. You have to actively participate in it. And remember, you've already survived your worst days. Survival is an act of love, and you've mastered it.

Release your grip on how you think your life should go, and allow it to unfold for you. Holding on too tight can only strangle what is trying breathe through you. Release, breathe, and let yourself live your life.

Presidents are powerful indeed. But they still need people to lead. Without the people, they are presidents of nothing. So, the people are a very important factor in the equation. Most likely the most important factor. It's important for everyone to remember this. All credit and certainly all blame does not fall solely on a … Continue reading Presidents →

Some people may say they thrive in chaos, but at best, they're really only surviving in chaos. Chaos, inherently is chaotic, and not conducive for anything to survive long term, let alone thrive in. The environment that can help ensure the greatest success is one that is organized. An organized space gives a sense of … Continue reading Organized →

The concept of "nine lives" can sound cool, as if it's supernatural. In reality, we get something so much better than just nine lives, we get an eternal existence. We're made of energy. It's what keeps us running, what heals us. And, energy doesn't cease to exist. So, we don't cease to exist. We will … Continue reading Nine Lives →

It's ideal when whatever you want to accomplish is easily manageable. A big part of that is you and how you approach it. In other words, it can be manageable when you decide that it is. It won't be magically perfect, but it will be better if your attitude aligns with it being better. Truly … Continue reading Manageable →

The thing about being little, is it's perfectly fine if it's only a physical matter. Because you can always grow, either up or out if you don't want to be that little anymore. And, as with anything physical, "little" is a matter of context. You could be little compared to some, and huge compared to … Continue reading Little →

It can be extremely stressful just making sure you're keeping up with living your life. The question is, are you worried and thinking about keeping up, or are you doing it? Sometimes we're so busy thinking about what we should be doing, that we waste all of our time and energy in worry before we … Continue reading Keeping Up →

You are in charge of your choices. Allowing someone else to make a choice for you is a choice. It's better to choose for yourself. And then jump into action. You've got to make things work for yourself. So jump to it.

Often, the most difficult thing to ask is for help. That's usually because we believe we won't get it. That belief is like a locked vault on our mind preventing any relief from getting in or out. Everyone is fighting some inner battle we're not fully aware of. It's important to pay attention to the … Continue reading Help →

All that we ever see is but a tiny excerpt from someone else's life. Just a fraction of what's really going on with them. And yet, we tend to tack on all of our own personal judgments to fill out the rest of the story. We assume we know what's going on with them, because … Continue reading Excerpt →

Caution is wise to practice but important keep in check. Being overly cautious may just be a cover for fear, whether it's justified or invented. As with anything, moderation is key when it comes to caution.

Your behavior is how you respond to situations and the actions of others. It's also how you choose to treat others. And your behavior is basically broadcast from a mile away, to anyone observant enough. As it is, most people are so wrapped up in themselves and the hypnosis of modern technology that they can't … Continue reading Behavior →

Your attitude pretty much determines how the journey of your life will go. It doesn't fully determine where you'll go, but it will certainly affect how you get there. And in a life where it feels like everything is out of control, it's pretty great to realize that your incredibly influential attitude is fully in … Continue reading Attitude →

Yesterday is gone, along with all the ways things were done back then. Life only moves forward. So, when you only look backwards, and you try to live in the past, you end up getting real cranky. Usually you hide that crankiness under a cover of impassioned righteousness about how great it was back then, … Continue reading Yesterday’s Gone →

Weather is going to do its thing, and it's not always pleasant. That's why we work to make sure that indoors we're protected and comforted from it. It's not unlike, oh, everything that's out there. Outside forces are going to do their thing. We can't control it, we don't even have to. We just need … Continue reading Weather →

"User friendly" often means, "dumbed down." Also, it usually refers to some kind of software. But, user friendly could very well refer to a type of person. It could refer to someone who is so concerned with appearing pleasant, that they're friendly without any kind of discernment. They're even friendly to those "users" who take … Continue reading User Friendly →

Teamwork works best when the whole team works. If there are some who are not pulling their weight, they're not really part of the team, they're beneficiaries. A team depends on it's members' contributions, the work in teamwork. These same members can enjoy all of the advantages that come with being a part of a … Continue reading Teamwork →

Some days are better than others. Some days are worse than the rest. But all days are better than no days, when it comes to what you get. You only get a finite amount of them. No one knows how many exactly, or why some people get less than others. However, one day your number … Continue reading Some Days →

If you want things to go well, then help yourself out and be sure to prepare for the outcome you want. You have to be ready for it. Prepare the setting, and most importantly, prepare your mindset. Practice the feeling of it coming true in your mind, and you'll be ready for it to happen. … Continue reading Prepare →

It's a risky gamble, putting off doing what you need to do or say until "next time." Nobody is guaranteed any amount of time. Every moment we get is a gift. So, if you need to say something, say it now. If you need to do something, do it now. Because there may not be … Continue reading Next Time →

Learning is so much more than gaining knowledge. Learning is realizing how to use it. And, the chance to keep learning never ends, if you're lucky. If you're not learning, you're rotting. The choice, as always, is yours. So, which one are your doing?

January is the chance for a fresh start. It's the first month of the new year, and it's electric with new motivation to make changes, commence exciting goals, with a chance to leave the troubles of the previous year behind. The holidays are over, decorations come down, and the winter weather plus short days can … Continue reading January →

History shows how it was done. The circumstances are different presently, so it's not a perfect model for how to do things now. However, those that ignore history are doomed to repeat it. So, even if the circumstances are updated, the lesson learned still has merit. The point here is, honor history, just don't get … Continue reading History →

Show the world who you are. Flex your strongest muscle, that beautiful brain of yours. Flex and share your brilliant ideas. Because only you can think in the incredibly unique way that you do. And the world needs that. From everyone. Why else would you be here?

Don't hold back. You don't get an unlimited supply of days or opportunities. Why not give it your best, every time? Be excellent. This isn't a practice run, where you only need to mark it. This is your life happening right now. It's the real deal. Give it your best.

You function at your best when you have been updated with the most pertinent information. Life keeps rolling along, things change, adapt, and hopefully improve. Keep rolling along with it, and stay updated. Don't get stuck in the past. You don't live there anymore. You live now, so stay updated.