Pessimism is a particularly sinister addiction. It feels like it's protecting you. It feels like you're being discerning, like you're expressing a valid opinion. But, the more you judge things in a pessimistic light, under the guise of offering an opinion, the more you teach your brain to be pessimistic. It feels good to sit … Continue reading Pessimism
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Nobody
Nobody else will ever know exactly what you're going through. And nobody really cares, because frankly they're going through their own distinctive experience. But that's why it doesn't matter what anyone else thinks, even the ones you really love. And especially the ones you're afraid of. They just don't know. Nobody does. So, let them … Continue reading Nobody
Waste of Time
Being concerned with other people's opinions about you is an utter waste of time. The truth is that their opinions aren't even about you, they are about themselves and their own perspective on the world, as warped as that may be. And I've known some warped individuals. I'm sure you have, too. I've also discovered … Continue reading Waste of Time
Opinions
Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. And let's face it, they'd still have one, regardless. But it doesn't mean that their opinion has to be your reality. That's a comfort, I'm sure. It's just important to also realize that your opinion doesn't have to be their reality either.
Note to Self
Note to self: You matter. You still matter even if they don't agree with you. You still matter even if you don't jump to let them know how you disagree with them. And for the sake of your own peace, you should try to let it go more often. Arguing usually does more harm than … Continue reading Note to Self
Friendly Suggestion
You don't have to hold an opinion about every topic that comes your way. It's just not possible to know everything there is to know about every little thing, so most of the time any opinion that you're defending is simply on shaky ground. That's a weak stance to maintain. That weakness can breed insecurity. … Continue reading Friendly Suggestion
Response
The one thing that we are ever really in control of, is our response to a situation. Things may not always go in our favor, or according to our plan. Things may change abruptly, or they may refuse to budge no matter how hard we try to improve them. People may suddenly change on you, … Continue reading Response
Liberate
It can be so satisfying to purge old, unused clothes, knick-knacks and junk. Freeing yourself of all that clutter can make you feel like a brand new person, inspired to live your best life. Stale, worn-out thoughts and ideas can clutter your mind just as much as physical stuff does to your home. The best … Continue reading Liberate
Mindfulness
It seems to me that the people who get the most upset at opposing viewpoints, are the ones who aren't fully confident in their own. Why else would they feel so threatened? Why else would they feel so manic about enforcing their point of view, if they weren't fully confident that it was a solid, … Continue reading Mindfulness
Opinions
Engaging in conflict with someone over their views is purely an exercise trying to control them. Which you'll never do from arguing with them. You'll just start a fight. The struggle you feel is because you want to control their opinion, even more than you actually want them to agree with you. Because if they're … Continue reading Opinions
We need more light
A dark side to social media is how hostile and divisive it can be in even the most harmless-seeming posts. Under the cover of online anonymity, people can get belligerent, arguing with strangers and spewing venom. And to what end? You can't really win an argument. "Winning" over someone else, only proves to make them … Continue reading We need more light
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