Remember a fundamental fact: all of your obligations are from your own choices. Realizing that you are the one who chose to bring them into your life, can turn all of your obligations from something you have to do, into something you get to do. And, that can make all the difference in the world. … Continue reading Obligations
Strength doesn't always mean a show of brute force. Sometimes strength is choosing to be calm and gentle. Strength comes from your choices. How you choose to react to situations shows your true strength.
No one is born inherently evil. No one is born inherently saintly. As we go through life, we are presented with many options. Choices we can take based on what we experience. You get to choose if you want to act out in an evil or in a saintly way. And, you can always choose … Continue reading Options
Love is the path of Heaven. Fear is the path of Hell. These are not final destinations. They are the paths of Heaven or Hell, not to them. Your choices dictate what path you are on. The final judgement is in your hands. It's been given to you for you to decide. And, you decide … Continue reading Path
Life gets very simple once you realize that you get to choose every moment of it. Simple isn't easy, it's just simple because there's only the one rule. And that is, that you get to choose. You get to choose how you react to everything. You get to choose how to perceive everything. You get … Continue reading Choose
Everything in this life is about a choice. Even if you refuse to make a choice, you've chosen to do so. Even if you fail to make a choice, you've chosen to do so. If your choice is taken away from you, and you allow that, you've made a choice. If you insist that you … Continue reading Choose
Life just can't be great unless you decide that it is. When you declare that life is simply delightful, then that is what it becomes for you. Hiccups and challenges are always going to pop up, because they come with the whole delightful package. But again, your experience of it all is determined by how … Continue reading Delightful
Joyful living comes from choosing to be joyful. Not from circumstances. It comes from deciding, despite circumstances, that you can find joy in your life. It won't guarantee that you'll always have joy, forevermore... but it will certainly give you a better shot at an overall joyful life if you decide it for yourself. So, … Continue reading Joyful Living
We are privileged to be given many freedoms in this country. But, freedom doesn't exclude anyone from consequences. Freedom of choice is just that, it is about the choices you are free to choose from. However, every single choice has an inherent consequence. Thinking you get to be free from consequences defies the law of … Continue reading Freedom
If you truly want to know the reason for the state of your life, look towards your everyday habits. It isn't because of some overbearing overlord, or an invisible power like destiny or fate. It is simply the culmination of your mundane, and oh, so small, everyday habits. Like how you wake up. How much … Continue reading Everyday Habits
Happiness is not so tricky. Actually, all it takes is for you to decide you want to be, and then allow it to happen. You don't need anything or anyone to be happy. You don't need certain conditions to be happy. In fact, if you're hanging your happiness on someone, something, or some type of … Continue reading Happiness
Food servers sometimes offer great wisdom. They gain it from dealing directly with people and helping them get what they need. Like offering cracked pepper on a dinner salad. The quick catchphrase they offer when crushing the pepper is, "say when." This lets you know that you get to determine the perfect amount of pepper … Continue reading Say When
The secret is that we get to choose how we perceive everything. The strange thing is that most of us choose to see things negatively. But there's liberation, and ultimately power in choosing to look on the bright side. It's your choice. Wouldn't you rather look on the bright side?
We all have dreams for ourselves and for how we would like life to turn out. You can keep them to yourself, and let them stay as dreams. You can also pursue them, and work to make them a reality. The cool part is that the choice is all yours.
They say that variety is the spice of life. It's true, nobody wants to be stuck in a rut, so it's important to change things up every now and then. But it's also important to stay true to your values. Don't just spice it up for the sake of variety. Remember who you are, and … Continue reading Variety
In order to achieve anything in life, you have to first decide that you are going to move in a certain direction. Then you just need to proceed towards that end, until you've achieved it. But it's important to always remember that you made the decision in the first place. You had the power to … Continue reading Decide
It's nice to have someone to turn to for advice. And it's nice to be equipped with advice to give out. But, always remember that we are each empowered to choose for ourselves in how we wish to conduct our own lives. Advice can offer you an option that you didn't realize you had, but … Continue reading Advice
In order to transcend any difficult situation, you need to cultivate an awareness of what you're doing in the moment. Awareness brings you back into the present, and shows you that you are not your emotional responses, you are merely choosing them. From there you can realize you have the freedom to choose something else, … Continue reading Awareness
Kindness is something that every one of us wants to receive from others. However, kindness can seem to be in short supply. And that's why the world seems to be so topsy-turvy. It takes a conscious choice to be kind. It takes willing to give kindness even when you might not receive it. A fundamental … Continue reading Kindness
They say that happiness is an inside job. In other words, your happiness has to come from within yourself. It doesn't come from any external factor. It's not really a hard concept to accept. It's not even all that mystical, or woo-woo. Everything we experience comes from our mind experiencing it. Every emotion we feel … Continue reading Inside Job
The key to having a happy life, is to first choose to be happy. I believe that anything we want is actually because we think that having it will bring us happiness. So, why make it so complicated? Why not choose to be happy first? Just imagine how lovely your day can be if you … Continue reading Happy Life
Before you can be, do, or have anything in this world, you have to decide that you will be, do, or have it. Once you decide on what you want, you'll get clarity, and then you've just helped yourself get that much closer to it. It's only that you have to decide, you can't leave … Continue reading Decide
Whenever things seem like they are totally out of control, remember that the only thing we ever really have control over is our reaction to what's happening. That's actually the most powerful thing to have control over anyway. It means that our happiness is in our power. We get to choose if we want to … Continue reading Reaction
A peaceful life is the result of choosing to be peaceful as many times as you can make that choice. A joyful life is the result of choosing to be joyful as often as you possibly can. A life filled with respect and dignity comes from making respectful and dignified choices. You get to help … Continue reading Choose
Do you find yourself rushing through life? What are you rushing for? Where do you have to go that is so far away? Why do you need to get there so quickly that you have to blur by most of your actual life in order to reach it? What happens when you do make it … Continue reading Rush
Happiness doesn't come from things, other people, or circumstances. It must come from inside of yourself. Just think about how someone could be really happy under certain circumstances, like traveling overseas, and yet another person could be miserable under the very same situation. So it's not the situation, it's the perspective of the person that … Continue reading Happy Choice
Everything in this world begins with a thought. And we get to choose what thoughts we want to pay attention to. This means that we get to choose what manifests in our life. So choose happy thoughts. Choose to be aware of the thoughts that run through your head, and if they aren't thoughts you … Continue reading Think on that
There is a lot of talk in the self-development world about authenticity, about being our most authentic self. The thing about that, is we get to decide who we are. We get to choose what we value. But in order to be authentic, we need to get real clear on what we've chosen for ourselves, … Continue reading Authenticity
Give yourself permission to choose what is best for yourself, and then choose it. It can be anything you feel is best, so long as it is never at the expense of another. This is for you. So choose what is best for you. No-one else can, or frankly will, make that choice. It's up … Continue reading Choose
I believe that if you're having trouble with a decision in life, particularly on deciding if choosing one way is the right choice, then that means that it is not. The best choice is to stop struggling with a decision. The decision is no. The best course of action is to move on from this … Continue reading Decisions
Each day we get a chance to choose kindness, be joyful, and speak with love. Some days it may be harder to make this choice, but those are the days that it's essential. Add enough of these days of choosing kindness, joy and love together, and you've created a wonderful life. We get to choose … Continue reading Choose
This weekend I revisited the amazing and nearly perfect Back to the Future movie trilogy. At the end of the final chapter, after many wild trips through several timelines, Doc Brown concludes it all by saying, Your future is whatever you make it. So make it a good one. That's not just some movie magic … Continue reading Make it a good one.