In my lifetime, I’ve been happy-go-lucky, easygoing, not wanting to ruffle feathers, just kinda drifting, and I’ve also been deliberately focused, staying on track, making decisions based on what was best for me.
The easygoing option might have been heavenly for the toxic people in my life, but I was stagnant and personally suffered.
Being deliberate with my choices, amazingly weeded out whoever wasn’t really good for my growth. This meant that I was a bit more solitary, but a lot more excited about my life.
By the way, in hindsight it’s clear that being so easygoing seems to be a magnet for narcissists. It was certainly true for me. And easygoing quickly turns into putting yourself last.
This is your life.
Make deliberate choices for how you want to live it.