What you focus on grows. And so, the answer to someone’s bad behavior isn’t to fight them. It only hurts you to go as low as them. And you can forget about trying to shame them. If they were rotten enough to hurt you, abuse you, or abandon you in your time of need, it’s pretty certain that they’re not going to suddenly change for the better because you’ve rubbed it in their face.
I wish the world was only filled with kindhearted, altruistic people. Unfortunately, that’s not the case. There are some real toxic individuals just roaming free out there. And we all seem to be stuck either being related or closely connected with some of them. Even still, it is imperative that you do not focus on their bad behavior, in an effort to eradicate it.
What you focus on grows, so you’d only be adding fuel to the dumpster fire. Instead, it’s best to follow the advice from that famous quote: “If you don’t like something, just take away its only power: your attention.” This is what Jesus meant when he taught us to “turn the other cheek.“
Don’t fight them. Don’t rail against them, screaming to cancel them because they’re rotten. Just take away your attention. Focus it on the good people in your life.
What you focus on grows, so help the world by focusing and growing more good behavior. Reward only the good behavior with your attention. As Christ expressed it: “resist not evil, but overcome evil with good.”