Practicing forgiveness is so important for your mental health. Forgiveness helps free you from the burden of being weighed down by anger and resentment. But it doesn’t have to be such a significant and ultimate decision.
I recently heard author Glennon Doyle give this great description of forgiveness. She said, Forgiveness is not a before and after. It’s like a spiral staircase.
In other words, it’s not so final and set in stone that once you forgive someone they are absolved of all wrong behavior from hence forth, that their sins shall forever remain in the past, while you are no longer allowed to feel any upset feelings that may still rise up, because you have now forgiven them. Life isn’t so cut and dry.
The spiral staircase idea she brings up means that sometimes you may come around the bend, so to speak, and the old hurt feelings show up, and so you’ll get to forgive yet again.
The point is that forgiveness is important for yourself to release hurt feelings, anger and resentment. To be free of that pain. And forgiving is not a one-and-done decision. Those feelings could still come up every now and again. That person or those people may end up repeating their behavior.
So don’t make it a huge significant decision that you have to be ready for because you think there’s no turning back after you make it.
You’ll be making that decision as often as needed. Because forgiveness isn’t really about who you’re forgiving, but it is vital for your own emotional freedom and peace of mind.