Most of the great teachers advise to let go of desperately wanting so much, and relax. It seems tricky, but it’s true. If I’m focused on wanting something desperately, then I’m focused on the fact that I don’t have it. I can’t get it, because I’m busy wanting it.
Wanting and having are two different states of being.
Perhaps accepting is a more effective state. Accepting and having are states that resemble each other much better. And accepting that it’s mine to have, doesn’t give off the same desperate vibe as wanting to have it does.
So, like the great teachers advise, it’s best to just let go of all that desperation, get into a state of acceptance, and be cool.