A common problem that most people have, is that they confuse their wants for needs. Most of us have more than we can ever use, but we're trained to keep wanting more. It gets painful when we think these wants are actually needs and that we don't have all that we "need." Perhaps its best … Continue reading Needs and Wants
Memories aren't always reliable. They can be lovely. They can be horrible. They might not even be fully factual. And if they're particularly painful ones, simply remember that you don't live there anymore.
We can certainly have our feelings hurt, and that can often feel worse than physical pain. But it might be best to remember that feelings come and go through us, much like thoughts. Having our feelings get hurt by another is truly painful, but letting that pain linger involves our part in holding on to … Continue reading Feelings
We're all afraid to get hurt. And opening yourself up to feel your emotions can leave you wide open to get hurt. But closing yourself off prevents you from living. In order to experience life, and to get past painful experiences, we need to allow ourselves to be vulnerable to lead with an open heart. … Continue reading Vulnerable
Life only moves forward, but sometimes we can stay mentally and emotionally stuck. We can feel paralyzed with fear about how to move on when we've already experienced such intense pain. But holding back and staying stuck is what's continuing the pain. That resistance is likely much more painful than the actual event even was. … Continue reading Keep Going
Despite all of the wishing and all of the positive thinking that you can muster, it's just inevitable that you'll experience grief sometimes. Grief is part of the human experience. Grief comes as part of the package-deal of loss that we all risk might happen, whenever we choose to love someone or something. Grief is … Continue reading Grief
Everyone has their own unique perspective. Everyone is unique, just like everyone else. It's a wonderful idea to remember when you need to find common ground with someone. The fact that they are living the human experience, just like you, with all of it's pain and glory should help you to relate. After all, everyone … Continue reading Everyone
Anything you try to control, controls you. Holding on to any kind of resentment towards someone keeps you chained to the hurt. Looking backwards doesn't keep you safe, it keeps you stuck. Freedom comes from forgiveness. Freedom comes from letting go, looking ahead, and having faith that you will be okay. Face forward, forgive easily, … Continue reading Freedom
Gratitude turns what we have into enough. The best way to improve your mood is to focus on what you're grateful for. We have all suffered loss. We all have pain. It's part of the package deal with being a human. We also all enjoy the blessings that come with being human. Some of us … Continue reading Thanksgiving
If it's still upsetting you when you think about the pain they caused, then realize that the upset has nothing to do with them. It's coming from you. Revenge and anger will do nothing to relieve you, only forgiveness can. If you're still upset, then you haven't fully forgiven them or yourself. You have to … Continue reading Turn
Forgiveness is not a one-time act. Forgiveness will set you free, and sometimes you will just need to repeatedly forgive another as the same hurt may come up again and again. Each time you forgive, you release yourself from that pain. So forgive, and forgive often.