When you take a closer look at something that is irritating to you, you'll see that it reveals a belief you hold. It wouldn't bother you so much if you didn't have an expectation, a belief that it should be something different than it is. As with every belief of yours, you are in control … Continue reading Irritating
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Loosen Your Grip
As long as you try to control every aspect of your life, you only end up not living it. Life is meant to be experienced live, and unscripted. Loosen your grip and stop trying to control the uncontrollable. You might find that then you can actually enjoy your life.
Reputation
It takes work, commitment and growth to build a stellar reputation. Some say that your reputation is your most valuable asset. But it's important to realize that your reputation is ultimately only what others think about you. And you can't always control that. It's far better to focus on your character. Your character is who … Continue reading Reputation
Freedom
Anything you try to control, controls you. Holding on to any kind of resentment towards someone keeps you chained to the hurt. Looking backwards doesn't keep you safe, it keeps you stuck. Freedom comes from forgiveness. Freedom comes from letting go, looking ahead, and having faith that you will be okay. Face forward, forgive easily, … Continue reading Freedom
Patience
Patience is a quality that can benefit us all. It implies that you fully believe that everything will work out just as it should for you. You don't need to rush. You don't need to control anybody. You don't need to plead or coerce. You just need to believe that you are taken care of, … Continue reading Patience
Relax
Taking the time to relax sounds so nice. But in order to relax you need to trust. In order to relax, you need to stop overthinking. In order to relax you need to release control. Being able to relax is allowing yourself to get out of the fast lane for a bit, and go slow. … Continue reading Relax
Reaction
Whenever things seem like they are totally out of control, remember that the only thing we ever really have control over is our reaction to what's happening. That's actually the most powerful thing to have control over anyway. It means that our happiness is in our power. We get to choose if we want to … Continue reading Reaction
Enjoy the Ride
Sometimes I spend so much time worrying about what I am going to do next, that I don't realize I've just wasted all of that time worrying. The time passed all on its own, and what did I do with it? I worried it away. There is something bigger than my thinking brain that keeps … Continue reading Enjoy the Ride
Human Being
A lifelong lesson I'm learning is that I am working too hard at life. I'm making it such a struggle. Can anyone relate? If life seems to be a constant struggle, I suggest you take a look and see if you're trying too hard to control things. That's what I do. I have fallen for … Continue reading Human Being
Opinions
Engaging in conflict with someone over their views is purely an exercise trying to control them. Which you'll never do from arguing with them. You'll just start a fight. The struggle you feel is because you want to control their opinion, even more than you actually want them to agree with you. Because if they're … Continue reading Opinions
What is certain
Today I heard one of the talking heads, from their little grid of Zoom boxes that lately make up what passes for television talk shows, say that we're currently dealing with a "weird loss of certainty," and it's hard navigating it, as they are a "control freak." Actually, I don't think we had any kind … Continue reading What is certain
Control
I want to control how things turn out. I want to control how people act around me. I want to control how people re-act to me. But the only things I truly can control are which thoughts I choose to believe, which words I allow myself to say, and how good or bad I want … Continue reading Control
Like a Fox! 