Yesterday may have good memories. Yesterday may have bad ones. Either way, it doesn't matter much, because you don't live there anymore. Yesterday is just as gone as the Peloponnesian War. There's no sense in spending too much time looking back there.
I've found that the best way to clarify your thoughts is to write it all down. Write it down, and then eliminate all of the extra words, until you get to the core message. Then you have something powerful to say. Write it down, clarify the thought, and then speak to your power.
Be honest with yourself in why you are under pressure. You're the one who gets to decide if you want to keep yourself there. It may not always feel like it, but you are in charge of that. If and when you do get honest with yourself about your reason, and it turns out to … Continue reading Under Pressure
The most effective way to have the best day of your life, is to claim it is the best. Say that you are going to have the best day, and you're on the fast track to making it so. Claim it and you'll make it real.
They say that the best time to start was yesterday. In other words, it's never too soon to begin living your dream life. The thing is that you're not going to be skilled enough at the start, to be living as your ideal self in your dream life. And, you'll never gain those skills until … Continue reading Start Now
Rest should be prioritized just as much as work, and certainly as much as fun. The problem is we're all so overstimulated in the pursuit of fun, and the mania to keep up with work, that rest gets sacrificed. The irony is that without adequate rest, we jeopardize our ability to maintain our capacity to … Continue reading Rest
We are all connected. So, whatever is going on within you has an affect on everyone else on the planet. That's part of the whole being connected thing. And so, if you aren't feeling peaceful in your own life, there's no chance for peace in the world. It all starts with you. And me. And … Continue reading Peace
It may seem naive to always look on the bright side of things, but it just really makes life so much brighter. Which makes like so much better. So, naive or not, I think it's the best thing that you can do. Keep looking on the bright side of life.
It's a noisy world, with a lot of distractions. We don't have much control over what happens on the outside, but we can have absolute control over what goes on inside. It's a noisy world out there. Do yourself a great favor, and calm the noise in your mind. Meditate, focus on your breathing, and … Continue reading Noisy
The only meaning anything has is what you give it. Nothing more, nothing less. And, you may very well be making it all up as you go along. You are giving the meanings to anything that you give importance to. Remember this when it gets too heavy. And then remember that you can change the … Continue reading Meanings
They say you can't take it with you. I'm pretty sure that applies to your worries as well. And, since you won't be taking those with you when you pass on, you might want to think about not lugging them around with you in life either. Lighten up. Life is such a short trip, don't … Continue reading Lighten Up
Know exactly what you want, and you're more than halfway there to getting it. It's the clarity in knowing what you want that is the fundamental building block to its achievement. If you're not sure about what you want, the best place to begin is to look at the opposite. Getting clear on what you … Continue reading Know What You Want
That thing you want to accomplish is attainable if you keep your focus. The person you want to become is a reality waiting for you to step into. All it takes, is for your commitment to it. Just keep at it until it happens. That's the simple, if possibly boring, strategy. It simply takes focus, … Continue reading Just Keep At It
Inspiration can hit any time. If and when it will happen aren't the real issues. The real question is, are you ready for it when it does?
Heaven isn't a place like some city on the clouds, it's a state of being. You don't physically move to get there, you feel your way to it. Heaven is a feeling. And, we have access to our feelings now. We don't need to wait for death to feel Heaven. Heaven is a state we … Continue reading Heaven
It all comes down to gratitude. Gratitude is the magic elixir to make everything better. Have gratitude for what's currently in your life. Have gratitude for what's coming. And have gratitude for the things you'd like to let go. Gratitude helps with all of it, because it reminds you of how blessed you are, and … Continue reading Gratitude
Life can be hard. It can hit you with unexpected tragedies and disappointments. But despite all of that, we're blessed with a choice on how to react as we navigate. We get to choose how to experience all of life. So, if you aren't actively choosing to have fun as much as you can, then … Continue reading Fun
Each and every breath you take is precious. The next one isn't necessarily guaranteed. That's just something to remember anytime you forget that your life, with all of its troubles and triumphs, is truly a gift. Be grateful for each breath you can take.
Rather than getting caught up in talking about it, and also being talked at about it from others, which leads to freezing in panic and confusion, do something about it. Action is the name of the game. Too much talk with too little action only causes emotions that can be too intense to handle. Do … Continue reading Do What You Can
You obviously do care, or you wouldn't try so hard to look like you don't. For some reason it isn't cool to show that you obviously care. It's much cooler to act like it doesn't matter one bit to you if others are suffering. But that isn't cool it's cold. And it's artificial. We're naturally … Continue reading Care
In order to get anything done, you need to begin. You can't wait until everything is perfect. It's not supposed to be perfect when you begin, because, frankly, it isn't finished yet. And you will never get it finished until and unless you begin.
Ask for what you want. Be clear. Be direct. I'm sure you appreciate honesty, so be honest yourself. What's the worst that can happen? If you're turned down, you got an answer and you can move on. If you don't ask, you'll forever wonder what if.
Time ticks by, and year after year it only ticks by faster. If that wasn't incentive enough to be sure and enjoy your time as it races by, there's an ever more urgent reason. Year after year, it only goes so far. At some point, the years stop for you. So, live it up, as … Continue reading Year after Year
Sometimes worry can seem like it's productive. You feel like you are actively strategizing worst case scenarios. But the only the only thing worry produces is a waste of your time and well-being. Because while you're fixated on some catastrophic future event, you're wasting your present life. And your present life is all that is … Continue reading Worry
It's an important practice to provide value to others. In order to do that you need to know your own value. Learn your value. And then share that value generously with others.
It's wonderful to feel understood. In order for that to happen, someone has to make an effort to understand you. It might be a good idea to remember that effort, and to try and extend your own understanding for others in the same way.
Most of us think it's a safe bet to trade our time for money. The problem with that is our time is limited, yet money has no limit. So, we're trading our most precious commodity for something that isn't nearly as precious as it seems to be. We need to value our time more, before … Continue reading Time
Keep things simple. If it's true, then it's simple. If there's something not right about it, it will seem complicated. Keep it simple.
Persistence is key to achievement. And a big factor in persistence is repetition. Repeating an action until you gain mastery over it, is the way to build the skills that help you in your persistence, which will lead to achievement of anything you set your sights on. It comes down to repetition.
The key to achieving anything is persistence. Simple, consistent action towards anything will eventually get you there. Persistence is the key. It really is that simple. It isn't necessarily easy, but it is simple. Persist until you get there.
Life only moves in one direction, and that's onward. It's when you try to resist it that you get into trouble. We've all had wonderful moments in our lives that we wished we could somehow freeze and stay in forever. But the problem with that is, then we wouldn't ever experience all the other wonderful … Continue reading Onward
No matter what kind of thoughts your mind is thinking, whether about the past or future, it's thinking them now, in the present. You are always in the now. Once you learn to get your mind there as well, then you'll realize how powerful you truly are.
It's that classic but true tale of mind over matter. If you don't mind, then it don't matter. What you focus on creates the circumstances of your world. So, focus on what you want more than what you don't want. Take your mind off of your worries and focus on your possibilities.
Love your life, as if your life depended on it. Because it isn't a stand-in for the real thing. It is the whole thing. If you don't love it, that is entirely on you. By all means, work to improve yourself how you see fit. But be sure to love yourself all along the way. … Continue reading Love Your Life
Keep going. Keep learning. Keep growing. The alternative is to decay. You're not done until you're done. So, stop calling yourself old, and realize that you have so much more to learn and so much more life to live.
It's highly beneficial and seriously recommended that you jot ideas down in a journal. It doesn't have to be a memoir, or even anything that needs to be seen by another set of eyes. It doesn't have to be a chore, or need any required word-count minimum. It can simply be a retreat for you. … Continue reading Journaling
When you take a closer look at something that is irritating to you, you'll see that it reveals a belief you hold. It wouldn't bother you so much if you didn't have an expectation, a belief that it should be something different than it is. As with every belief of yours, you are in control … Continue reading Irritating
It's technically true that you can live without happiness. But, happiness is a choice, independent from any outside source. So, if you can choose happiness, then why would you want to live another day without it? Quit waiting for happiness to come. Choose it now. And live happily ever after.
Ultimately, life is a great big guessing game. Only a fool is fully certain, because that leaves no room for learning. And there's just too much we don't know yet to not have any room for learning. So, be okay with uncertainty, know that we're all just playing a guessing game, and aim to make … Continue reading Guessing Game
You've got to make a decision. I read somewhere that you can't sit on a fence for long, because it hurts. It made a vivid point. Fences are good for keeping one side separate from another, but they make awfully spiky seats. So, pick a side, and make your peace with it. Better yet, make … Continue reading Fences
You can make a powerful choice. You can choose to think of yourself as improving, every day in every way. You don't have to think about it all day, every day. But, if you choose to be conscious of improving every day, even just a tiny bit from the day before, you'll be astonished at … Continue reading Every Day
Life just can't be great unless you decide that it is. When you declare that life is simply delightful, then that is what it becomes for you. Hiccups and challenges are always going to pop up, because they come with the whole delightful package. But again, your experience of it all is determined by how … Continue reading Delightful
The reason why they say that communication is key to relationships, is that communication is happening all the time. Whether you're talking or not, being upfront or withholding, you are communicating something. The absolute best thing you can do for yourself and for your relationships is to make sure that you're conscious of exactly what … Continue reading Communication
Sometimes it can feel so daunting to get up and get out into another day. Sometimes it seems like it would be safer to hide under the covers. But life keeps moving on, only if you're lucky. And, the funny thing is that it's easier to get up, get moving, and brave the day, than … Continue reading Brave the Day
The answers will always come. You will always get an answer. That's not the most important factor. It's much more important to get clear on your questions. Get clear on what you're asking, because you'll always get an answer to the very question. Might as well know what you're talking about.
Remember, it's your life. No one else can live it for you. No one else can feel your pain or your joy. You are in charge of those things. I believe part of the reason for feeling big feelings like joy and pain, are so that you can have empathy for other's experiences of them. … Continue reading Your Life
We all get hung up on trying to figure out how we are going to get the things we want in life. But we should really focus more on clarifying exactly what we want. Get clear on the what, and the how will start to work itself out.
While there is a huge sliding scale for vices, having some is still a part of being human. It becomes a problem if and when they take over and get confused for someone's personality. Now, we might get saddled with vices, but we're also blessed with virtues. Whichever you choose to develop has a huge … Continue reading Vices
If you haven't already, you're going to find the perfect position in life for you. Because you are uniquely qualified to fulfill your very life's mission. It is yours and yours alone. So, don't worry about not fitting in. What is meant for you will fit as if it was custom made for you. Because, … Continue reading Uniquely Qualified
Time will tell what will be. Until then, the best you can do is enjoy the present moment, and the journey along the way.
They say it's a small world, but to each of us it is the whole world. Truly, it's all relative. If the world is small to you, make the most of it. Realize that you can be at home anywhere. If the world is massive, think of it as a big playground, full of adventure. … Continue reading Small World
I think the reason why so many people bail on their New Year's resolutions within a few weeks, is because they make the goals too darn big. Giving yourself a full year to reach the proverbial finish line seems daunting, and so people just drop it. That's why I believe it might be better to … Continue reading Reassess
I just heard about the passing last weekend, of one of my teachers from afar, Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh. He was a Vietnamese Buddhist monk, peace activist, poet, and author of several incredible books on the practice and importance of mindfulness. I've read several of his works, and have always grabbed any book by him … Continue reading Practice Mindfulness
You were never ordinary. Because ordinary means having no special or distinctive features. However, we are all unique, just like everyone else. So, ordinary sounds nice and all, but you're far too fabulous to be ordinary. You bring that extra something, and that makes you extraordinary. So, be proud and show the world how extraordinary … Continue reading Ordinary
Being nice seems to get a bad rap these days. But I believe it's because most people think they're being conned when someone appears to be too nice. That's because a lot of people that appear to be nice are faking it for ulterior motives. Also, not that many people act nice anymore, so it's … Continue reading Nice
In my lifetime I've seen a complete turnaround in how the idea of meditation is viewed. It's a not a new phenomenon. The act of meditation is as old as mankind. But when I was young, it was only talked about in esoteric circles. And, there weren't a lot of esoteric circles in my typical … Continue reading Meditate
The thing about luck is, you make it for yourself. Luck comes from hard work, preparation, persistence, organization, and clarity. You get luck from believing you are lucky. And the best way to believe you are lucky is to show yourself how hard you work at achieving your goals. Put in the work, have the … Continue reading Luck
It's true that knowledge is power. But, knowledge on its own isn't enough. Knowledge without action is useless. It's what we do with knowledge that can create an incredible life. And, we are living in a great age of information. People have access to more information now than any of the great masters of the … Continue reading Knowledge
Joyful living comes from choosing to be joyful. Not from circumstances. It comes from deciding, despite circumstances, that you can find joy in your life. It won't guarantee that you'll always have joy, forevermore... but it will certainly give you a better shot at an overall joyful life if you decide it for yourself. So, … Continue reading Joyful Living
If you want to be interesting, it's simple. All you need to do is become actively interested in others. There's nothing more appealing, or interesting than a person who is joyfully interested in you.
When faced with a choice, I believe it's important to follow your heart. Choices that are heart-centered work out best for all involved. Haven't you noticed how the less heart is given to matters, the harsher and colder things turn out? We need more acts that are heart-centered and less harsh-headed. After all, fear is … Continue reading Heart-Centered
It's the memories of the good times that help you get through the bad times. It's the stories of the good times that bring smiles to everyone's faces. It makes good sense then, to actively create more good times to add to the vault whenever you can, while you can. You'll be so glad that … Continue reading Good Times
We are privileged to be given many freedoms in this country. But, freedom doesn't exclude anyone from consequences. Freedom of choice is just that, it is about the choices you are free to choose from. However, every single choice has an inherent consequence. Thinking you get to be free from consequences defies the law of … Continue reading Freedom
If you truly want to know the reason for the state of your life, look towards your everyday habits. It isn't because of some overbearing overlord, or an invisible power like destiny or fate. It is simply the culmination of your mundane, and oh, so small, everyday habits. Like how you wake up. How much … Continue reading Everyday Habits
You don't have to be who you are according to someone else's definition. Define yourself. Live your life according to your terms, as long as it is moral, and doesn't affect anyone else's morality. It goes both ways. You don't want someone else to dictate how you live your life. You don't want someone else … Continue reading Define Yourself
Change is a natural part of life. In fact, change comes from growth, and if you aren't growing, you're dying. If there's anything that isn't working in your life, change it up. If there's something that feels stale and stagnant, or maybe too comfortable, change it up. There's no better time than the present. Change … Continue reading Change it Up
Be the person you want to be. Don't wait until you get the career you want, or the body you want. Get into being that person, and the outside effects will catch up. It begins with who you are inside. Be the you that you are meant to be. Be it first and it will … Continue reading Be Yourself
What happens after you achieve your goal? What are the after effects? What will your life look like when you achieve it? What will it feel like to have that happen-- whatever it may be-- in your life? Think about those after effects, feel those things as if they've already happened, and you'll be on … Continue reading After Effects
Your perspective colors everything that you see. In fact, it's responsible for everything you see. So, if you don't like what you see, you've got to change your mind. Wayne Dyer said it best when he said: Change the way you look at things, and the things you look at change. It all starts and … Continue reading Your Perspective
Wisdom comes from experience. And, as you get good at it, wisdom can also come from choosing not to repeat certain experiences. It all comes from living through life. And that is just as valuable and covetable as youth is. As a matter of fact, the opposite of young shouldn't be old, but rather, wise. … Continue reading Wisdom
Take some time to get clear on your own personal values. Once you know what your values are-- what it is that means the most to you-- then you will know how to lead your life. Even better, you will know how to help yourself if your life starts leading away from your values. Until … Continue reading Values
It does no good to only think about your skills, or to only talk about your skills. You need to use your skills. And, you can't worry about not being so great at them either. The only way to get great is to practice using your skills. That may mean that you'll probably look like … Continue reading Use it or Lose it
It's a new year, you can start a new chapter for yourself if you want. Why not take a chance and try something new? Start that YouTube channel. Join that group fitness club. Sign up for that creative writing class. Take a chance on something new, and take a chance on yourself. Nothing is set … Continue reading Take a Chance
It's always best to start off right, in any endeavor, even it's simply getting up in the morning. And the absolute best way to start off, is by saying, "thank you." Start with gratitude, and you've started with magic.
Maybe things haven't happened in your favor. Maybe you haven't arrived at your dream destination. All it means, is that it hasn't happened yet. Your dream destination and favorable conditions may be just right around the corner. Keep going. Because, if things haven't yet happened how you dreamed they would happen, then that means that … Continue reading Right Around the Corner
A key step in manifestation, is to prepare for what you want to manifest. Make space for what you want in your life. Make room for it in your schedule. Prepare to have the thing in your life that you want. Prepare to think about the thing as much as you think about the things … Continue reading Prepare for it
Life just keeps moving along. And it only goes forward. It's when we resist this, or try to move backwards, that life gets difficult. But, when you're present with it, it can be amazing. Either way, it's not very long. Even if you get to be 99 years old, it still feels like an instant. … Continue reading On With the Show
New Year's Day gives the world a chance at a fresh start. We can all benefit from starting fresh, putting the past behind and moving free into a new chapter. But, we don't have to wait until the end of the year to start new. Anytime you want, you can decide that it's the beginning … Continue reading New
Wherever you find yourself, make the most of it. Life isn't a dress rehearsal, and it won't always be ideal. But, whatever is happening, is really happening. It's in your best interest to make the most of it, while working to make it better and better, until it is ideal. It's your life. Do what … Continue reading Make the Most of it
There is no sense in focusing too much on sad things and trouble. For one thing, it can only make you feel worse. And for another thing, it takes your energy away from focusing on good things, and solutions. It's best to heed that famous advice, and let it be. Let it be, and don't … Continue reading Let it Be
You can do anything you want if you put your mind to it. You just have to know what you want. That's the tricky part. It isn't so much the achievement of something, it's knowing exactly what you want to achieve. Life throws a lot of obstacles your way, and distractions on top of that. … Continue reading Know What You Want
Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself, is to just breathe. Just stop worrying about how to handle everything else, and simply focus on breathing. It will calm you down, and stop any kind of thought spiral you may be spinning down. Also, you might have stopped breathing properly in your fit. So, … Continue reading Just Breathe
Before anything in your outer world can change, you have to start changing the thoughts that make up your inner world. After all, everything that happens in your outer world, begins with the thoughts you think in your inner world. So, go to the source of it all. Change your thoughts. Change the way you … Continue reading Inner World
If you want to feel blessed, help someone else. It's in service that we feel most fulfilled in this life. And, what goes around comes around. Help others whenever you can, because you for sure will need help one day yourself, and so it goes to reason that you'll want to make sure the world … Continue reading Helpers
An absolutely wonderful cure for any low mood, is gratitude. The way to switch from lack to abundance, is with gratitude. The best way to have solid relationships, is gratitude. It's recommended as a practice, because you should always practice gratitude, and never stop. Gratitude can bring you a dream life, if you bring it … Continue reading Gratitude
We tend to want to fit in with everyone, and that's just not possible. It's better for you, and the rest of the world, actually, if you find your niche, and get good at that. You are special, just like everyone else, and you have unique gifts that only you can share with the world. … Continue reading Find Your Niche
Everyone has dreams. Everyone has likes and dislikes. Everyone wants to be treated with dignity and respect. Everyone means everyone, even those people you want so badly to demonize because it makes it easier to discount them. But they all have dreams, likes and dislikes, and wish to be treated with the same dignity and … Continue reading Everyone
Just be an honest person. Live with integrity. Be kind as much as you can. And when you find yourself not being kind, apologize, own up to it, and work to do better. Don't get hung up on wondering if you're deserving or not. If you are kind and live with integrity, then you are … Continue reading Deserving
It doesn't have to be about presents or parties or festive decorations. What makes this the most wonderful time of the year is the fact that it reminds people about celebrating and spreading a bit cheer as they go about attending to presents and parties, decorations, mass and services. How lovely it would be to … Continue reading Christmas Cheer
They say that beauty is in the eye of the beholder. I agree with this, as I believe that you see what you believe. Why not believe in beauty? Believe in a beautiful world, and that is what you will behold.
The best way to have an amazingly awesome life, is to create it with a whole bunch of amazingly awesome days. And the way to have an amazingly awesome day, is to decide that you will. You may not always succeed. But, the idea of you deciding to have an amazingly awesome day, despite having … Continue reading Amazingly Awesome
It feels like the things we do yearly seem to come around again sooner and sooner each year. But, I don't think it's because time is speeding up. I think it's because the pressure we're put under (or put under ourselves) to check those boxes off, so to speak, is more intense than ever. So, … Continue reading Yearly
Winter can be a time of cold and darkness. But it's also a time to rest, gather around your loved ones, and celebrate the end of the year. And, even though it is an ending, that also means a new beginning is right around the corner. Because winter is it's own season, but it's also … Continue reading Winter
Whenever I'm struggling, in particular with feeling way too righteous, it's because I've temporarily forgotten that there are several viewpoints to any issue, not just my own. We could all benefit from remembering this. We all have our own viewpoints on issues. This doesn't mean they are all correct, but they do all exist. Denying … Continue reading Viewpoints
How can we seem to be living in entirely different worlds from each other when we're all really just on the one planet, under the same moon? The truth is, it is one planet with billions of people, and just as many different perspectives. That can be an excuse for divisiveness and separate agendas. And … Continue reading Under the Same Moon
It's worth noting that in order for you to be able to trust another, you have to be trustworthy yourself. It falls in line with the whole idea to: be the thing you want to see in the world. Truly, how could you trust anyone else if you know that you aren't trustworthy yourself? As … Continue reading Trustworthy
It might be wise to remember that if anything can be given to you, it can also be taken away. This applies to the idea of security as well. Especially if you're offered a chance at so-called security from the same source that shows you what you should be afraid of. In any case, buyer-- … Continue reading Security
I don't think we were ever supposed to stare our miraculous eyes at these radiating screens for hours upon hours every day. It's no wonder we're all tired and cranky, with headaches. Rest your eyes. Pull them away from the screens every so often, and give them a rest. After all, you can always replace … Continue reading Rest Your Eyes
Sometimes the best way to lift yourself out of a low state, is to switch your focus and see all the other possibilities that are available to you. We tend to get so narrow in our scope, thinking all of life exists in our tiny personal worldview. And that limits our dreams, which is obviously … Continue reading Possibilities
I agree that false positivity is toxic. But I also know that true optimism is the only way to keep courage and have faith in progress for your life. It isn't denying that there are bad things happening like false positivity preaches to do, rather it's knowing that things will get better. There is surely … Continue reading Optimism