Find a kinder way to respond. Find a kinder way to conduct yourself. Because even though it may be tempting to just go low and get them back, the world has too many assholes as it is. Don't be one yourself if you can help it. Be kinder.

The lazy way is to allow yourself to get jaded. It's the lazy way, but it isn't easy. Because being jaded means you've made life hard. It becomes hard to put up with and only makes you more and more unpleasant, which will make life more and more hard to navigate because no one will … Continue reading Jaded →

You can try to manufacture a false image of yourself, one that you think the world will accept better, but who are you fooling? The image could appear flawless, but if it's made-up, then it will reek of desperate effort. The image may look good, but people pick up on the energy you give off, … Continue reading Image →

Gravity is already doing a good enough job pulling you down, don't add to it. Don't drag yourself down because your dreams feel too big. That's what dreams are supposed to be. Somewhere between the fantastical magnanimous scope of your dreams, and the sensible practicality of being "down to earth" is where you'll end up, … Continue reading Gravity →

Dream because you can. Because it helps to clarify what you want. Because it's the beginning of the creative process. Because the effort is so much sweeter if you're fulfilling a dream.

Be cool. But don't try to be cool, because that type of effort isn't cool. Show your awkwardness, show your vulnerability, and be authentic with it. That's cool.

Keep in mind, that we don't get unlimited amounts of anything. So, if you get to go out to dinner again, or start holiday decorating again, or visit your aging relatives again, remember that these moments are precious. There won't always be an "again". At some point it will be the last time. Knowing that … Continue reading Again →

The thing about years, they go faster the more of them you collect. As you age, years no longer seem like the major milestones they used to. Instead, they seem to breeze by, until you suddenly look back and five years took the place of what only one used to feel like. The point is, … Continue reading Years →

The thing about winning, is once you've realized you've already won, because it's your life, that's winning.

Realize that the reason why every single marketing tool is desperately vying for your attention is because it is the most valuable thing in our modern society. Energy flows where attention goes, and that translates into where we spend our money. Guard your attention for the precious resource it is. Because everyone else is already … Continue reading Vying for Attention →

It's important to not only focus on the symptoms of a problem, but to address the underlying causes. Those are harder to see, harder to fix, but crucial to address. And if there's a problem, be prepared to realize that there are underlying causes.

In order to have a successful team, it's got to be filled with people that want to be there. Otherwise it's just a group of people thrown together, forced to cooperate. And that doesn't seem to work out with humans.

September is a big transitional month. Even though it's still fairly hot, and technically summer, the light changes ever so slightly and the feeling of fall, or autumn, blankets over you. Our fast-paced world makes us want to speed things along ourselves, so Halloween decorations start popping up, and stores start pushing sweaters and knitwear. … Continue reading September →

Revenge is not worth it. There's a saying that if you seek revenge you should dig two graves, because essentially you're attacking yourself just as much as the "enemy" that you're seeking revenge on. Revenge eats away at you every second you entertain the thought of it. Even if you get to inflict it, you've … Continue reading Revenge →

Peace is simplicity. No clutter, no loud noise, no demanding appointments, just simplicity. A great way to achieve peace is to simplify.

Orders sounds official and formidable. If someone issues orders, you're supposed to follow them. But, remember, it's your choice if you do. You could choose not to, and then deal with the consequences. Usually they're in your best interest to follow them. But remember, you always have a choice.

Negativity can take over your outlook faster than you realize. It pretends to be a protective mechanism. But before you know it, you're criticizing and discounting everything, all in the name of being discerning. Negativity can ruin your relationships. If you're not careful, negativity can end up being your personality. Stay aware of the quality … Continue reading Negativity →

The idea of needing more can be tricky. You could end up always needing more, because that's what you're focused on. It might be a good idea to take stock of what you have right now, and focus on appreciating it. Then decide if you need more, or if you simply want more.

Energy needs to keep moving. Life needs to keep moving. In order to live, you have to let go and move with life. Let go.

Our lives are so scheduled and then filled with distractions that we seem compelled to always keep up with. Don't forget yourself in all of this. It's your life. You're in charge of it. Be sure that you're keeping up with you.

Junk food is poison. It seems like a treat at first. It tastes good, can be easy to get, and it seems to be always available. But it's extremely unhealthy and can make you all sorts of sick. Gossip is kind of like junk food for your brain. It can seem like a treat at … Continue reading Junk Food →

Your most valuable asset is time, and all you can do is spend it. The question is, what will you spend it on? Will you invest it in learning new skills? How about quality time with loved ones? Or will you spend it on mindless entertainment and distractions. Some are costs, the others are investments. … Continue reading Investments →

Honor is earned. It's best earned by giving it to others. Treat them with honor, and earn it for yourself.

Grace is what allows you to be. And it's with grace that you should allow others to be as well. What goes around comes around, and back around it comes again. Live with grace. Extend grace to others.

A failure all depends on how you look at it. One perspective can look at a failure as simply information. Choosing not to see a failure as simply a result, could be a failure all in itself.

We always think we want things to be easy, but "easy" always comes with a cost. Easy is deceptive. Easy comes with strings attached. Easy ends up being a big hassle in the end. There's actually nothing easy about it. Hard work pays off. Put in the effort. You'll be glad you did.

You'll find as much drama as you are looking for. It's all in how you look at it. If you don't want drama, don't entertain it. Refuse to get baited, and eventually it will move on. Unfortunately, life always comes with a bit of drama, and people certainly do. So, unless you can find a … Continue reading Drama →

We're called human beings, as we are being humans. We're not human doings, we're human beings, so it's funny that one of the first questions we get asked when meeting someone is, "What do you do?" And that question always seems to rile you up, because it makes you feel like you're inadequate if you're … Continue reading Being →

You'll know when it's time to make your move. You may worry that you actually don't know when that is, but that is only because it isn't the right time. When it's the right time, you'll know.

True winners are those who appreciate the moment, but understand how fleeting it is. They're gracious because of this, as they know the tables can turn oh, so quickly. This makes them "true" winners, because with this outlook, they've really won at the game of life.

Vanity is usually a trait employed to cover up a deep insecurity. Not about one's looks, or talent, whatever they're vain about, but an insecurity that it's all they're good for. If someone acts extremely vain over their good looks, it's usually because they think (or have been told) that they hold no other value. … Continue reading Vanity →

Unicorns are so fantastical because they're unlike anything we've seen in "real life." They're somewhat equestrian, but you could easily spot them in a herd of horses, because they would stand out with their sparkly horn and colorful glittering mane. It takes major confidence to be that fabulous. To not only stand out from the … Continue reading Unicorns →

Talk is cheap, but it can cost you dearly. Listening is free, but incredibly valuable. Somewhere in there is wisdom. Creation designed it for two ears, and one mouth, because it's grander to listen more and to talk less.

Just like a wildfire can spread fast creating mass destruction if you don't stomp it out at its small beginnings, so too can negativity spread among humans. Stomp it out as soon as you spot it. Don't fan the flames of negativity. Kill it before it begins, if you can. Or at the very least, … Continue reading Spreads like Wildfire →

Celebrate your live. Cheer and revel in your wins and accomplishments. But remember that life keeps moving forward. Don't get stuck in a moment. You never want to stay too long at the party because it can turn sad after too long, as if all you're doing is looking backwards. Revel and celebrate, but remember … Continue reading Revel →

Patience is a virtue as long as you're clear on what you're waiting for. If you're simply allowing someone to waste your time with disrespect, then you aren't being virtuous in your patience, you're being a doormat. Be calm, be patient, but know how to respect yourself.

Why do we keep ourselves small? Why do we worry so much about what other people think? Truly, social media has made this issue worse. What was meant to connect people, seems to have helped embolden their vicious judgments. But keeping ourselves small, stifles us until we just want to be let out of our … Continue reading Outrageous →

If we can only get clear on the difference between our needs and our wants, we can help end some unnecessary anguish. As it stands, too many of us think too many of our wants are needs. Since we're lacking in most of them, it feels like we're suffering. But, truly we have a small … Continue reading Needs →

We all have our motives for our actions. Some are more obvious than others. Some are more obvious to others than they are to ourselves. Some are common. Some are a mystery. Sounds like anything regarding humans.

Look and see what's in front of you. It's there, right now, but it may be completely different without all of the expectations and judgments you're tacking onto it. Look at it without all of that, if you dare, and see the world before you.

Jealousy is not an emotion to mess with. If you entertain it, it can quickly knock you down a low depressing path that is extremely difficult to come up from. Jealousy can make an awkward experience even worse, by adding conflict and anger. It's far better to drop it the moment you feel it coming, … Continue reading Jealousy →

What's interesting to you may not be to others. The reverse is also true. We're supposed to have different interests, because we are all unique, just everyone else. If only we all understood this, then peace could ultimately be possible.

Doesn't matter what it is, if you are in charge of it, handle it with care. You're teaching the world how to act by example. How you do anything is how you do everything. So teach the world to be full of care, and teach it to be careful with its responsibilities.

Even if you don't say a word, you are communicating your thoughts. Sometimes you're communicating them even more so by not saying a word. We are expressive beings. We all have thoughts that run through us, so we all can pick them up from each other in one way or another. It's just that words … Continue reading Expressive →

Oftentimes when you go looking for answers, you discover that they vary as much as the different perspectives that are giving them. Oftentimes answers depend on the one who answers them. Truth may not be subjective, but people's personal feelings and opinions certainly are. That's why it's always wise to consider the source.

In order to get what you want you need to put yourself out there. Visibility is crucial. The internet and social media has caused a lot of anonymity as well as a slew of trouble and unhappiness. It's not all bad online, but the hiding aspect certainly isn't great. Visibility helps keep things honest. And … Continue reading Visibility →

When people say "totally" they really only mean "for the most part" at best. It's interesting how we tend to use hyperbole in our language as if just stating reality isn't enough. As if what we represent isn't enough. Is all of this hyperbole in our conversations just like the filtered exaggerated images in our … Continue reading Totally →

Risk is determined by what you stand to lose in the effort to gain. Sometimes the stakes are extremely high, like life or death, other times it only involves something subjective or even made up, like your self-created image. What are you willing to risk?

July is right smack dab in the heart of the summer. Even still, the harsh weather shocks, and if you find yourself doing anything other than hanging out by the pool or the beach, in a hammock or a dark and cool movie theater, then it almost feels like you're being pranked. It's too hot … Continue reading July →

Unbecoming is just a polite and gentle way to say "crude," "gross," or "disgusting." So, in effect, the word "unbecoming" itself is much more appealing than what it is describing. Wouldn't it be wonderful if the rest of the world was a polite and gentle as the word "unbecoming"? Aren't you over the world being … Continue reading Unbecoming →