A nuisance in your life is pointing out that you care about whatever it is disturbing. Let it remind you to pay attention to what you care about. Focus on that.

Mistakes help you get better. The only bad mistakes are the ones that are repeated. But then, those aren't mistakes, those are bad choices.

The lessons of life never stop coming. Even if you try to ignore them. They'll just pile up. It's best to try and pay attention, they're only there to help you.

Kindness always matters, even if it sometimes feels like you're the only one showing it. We all want to be treated kindly, but some of the more popular personalities lately are only showing hatred, indifference, and contempt. Someone has to be the example of kindness, to show what people are missing. Why not you?

It's all junk until you put meaning behind it. So if you are feeling overwhelmed by all the stuff, realize that you are what's important, not the stuff. Seek out what you really feel has meaning to stay, and then let all the other junk go.

It's helpful to remember that this whole idea that everything needs to happen immediately or faster has been created by corporate marketing. That frenzy they've whipped up makes you willing to pay whatever you need to get things faster because you can and because you don't want to "fall behind" if you take your time. … Continue reading Immediately →

Being happy shouldn't be something you have to force. Happy isn't work. Happy is feeling relaxed, grateful and appreciative of the very moment you're in. Relax on trying to make your life happy.

Grief has its own timeline. It won't let up just because you will it to. It will find ways to linger until it's ready to change. It doesn't matter if the timing is inconvenient for your life. It makes you wonder who is really control. Is it the planner part of you, or something deeper?

There are worse "f" words than the typical expletive that we're all familiar with. In my experience, people have used the words "family," or worse "friend," to mean something far more offensive than a vulgar "f-bomb" dropped in an R rated movie. All of these are just words, but it's the meaning people put behind … Continue reading F words →

A good thing to keep in mind is all exits are also entrances. It's all in how you look at it. And in which direction you're focused. Look ahead.

Death is coming for all of us, that's a given. It's already taken care of for you. Enjoying your life is up to you. So, you might as well get started. Because everybody thinks they have more time than they do, even if they know their loved one is dying. It always happens sooner than … Continue reading Death →

In order to have a civilized society, we all need to act civil towards each other. There's a reason most all of the monarchs and dictators are gone. Yes, because they suck, but also because we all want to be treated with respect and not forced into fealty towards some blustering moronic demagogue. It not … Continue reading Civilized →

You're doing your best as long as you're trying. If you know you can do better that means you're on your way to doing so. Give yourself a break on that, and while you're at it, let up on others too. They're doing the best they can at the moment.

Arguments, for the most part, are a waste of time and energy. The arguers are just wasting your time and energy. You're hardly ever going to change their mind. So, don't let them rile you up. Everyone has their own personal online megaphone now, where they can make a lot of noise to the public. … Continue reading Arguments →

Once you realize you have a lot more yesterdays than tomorrows, you would be wise to start focusing on your todays. They turn into yesterdays faster than you realize. And forget about the tomorrows, they're never guaranteed anyway.

A true winner is gracious and enjoys winning as well as not winning. They're never a loser, because they can see the lesson they've learned and they're glad for it. It's not always easy to be a true winner but it is certainly the best.

Your chances for success largely depend on what you value. Choose quality stuff and quality relationships, the stuff that lasts and gets better with time. Those are the things with great value.

It seems like common sense that if you're going to be proud about a place with "United" in the name that you should act united with its people. But then again, those that boast loudest of their pride seem to also have a lack of common sense, irony and even unity for that matter.

Time may be a construct, but it sure does creep by slowly when you're uncomfortable. Then it flies when you're having fun. And even if it might be all made up, there doesn't seem to have been enough of it when you're at the end of your days. Remember to spend yours wisely.

Time doesn't always heal wounds. Like sadness, the longer you live with it, it doesn't go away, you just get better at carrying it. You learn to cover it with a smile to get through social interactions. And you realize that even if you just want it to, it won't break you completely, but only … Continue reading Sadness →

Respect doesn't just happen, it has to be earned. And you earn it by acting respectful and giving respect yourself. This doesn't seem to be taught everywhere. But people everywhere do wish to be given respect.

People can ruin any event, by just being people. But, since we're all we've got, and since we're all in this life-on-earth thing together, it's best to try to get along. So, can we all get along now?

Pay more attention. Observe your surroundings and the people around you. Hardly anyone does it. They're wrapped up in their internal stories, or whatever marketing distractions are sucking their attention. But being able to get present and observe what's actually happening around you can practically give you superpowers. It will definitely give you a great … Continue reading Observe →

It's so much easier to be negative than it is to be optimistic. That's why it's so prevalent, people take the easy route, and then wonder why they're so miserable. Don't take it so easy, falling in line with all the negativity around you. Be the bright spot that the world, and certainly you need.

No matter what's going on in your life, the new morning always offers a fresh start. What you do with that gift is up to you.

Lessons can only help you if you care enough to learn from them. You've gotta care. That's the secret ingredient to almost all of life's secrets.

Knowledge doesn't make you smart, making effective choices with your given knowledge and information does. It's not what you know, it's how you use it beneficially that matters.

There's being justified in your actions, and doing the right thing. And sometimes they aren't the same. In any case, always chose doing the right thing, even if you would feel justified in doing the opposite.

The image you think you project and the image other people have of you may not be the same. Sometimes they're not even close. So, essentially we have no idea what other people are really thinking, and all the worrying about what they think of the image we're trying to project is a silly waste … Continue reading Image →

When you feel really and truly happy, cherish that feeling, and remember it. Because some of us that took it for granted may have a hard time remembering. Nothing is guaranteed. Acknowledge your happy times, enjoy them and don't take them for granted.

Gratitude is not only a courtesy to give to others, but it is a great gift to give yourself. It feels great to feel gratitude because it means you are blessed with something you can appreciate. So acknowledging it with gratitude makes you enjoy it even more.

Failure doesn't come from messing up, it comes from giving up. Mistakes are lessons that help you learn. As long as you learn from them and keep going, you are not a failure, you're a masterpiece work in progress.

Everyone has their own perspective and their own life to be in charge of. Everyone is here sharing this world with everyone else. And everyone must do their part to help make it a good place to live for all of us.

Distance is the amount between two things. Sometimes it's not even in measurements, but in feelings. You could be standing right next to someone, and be galaxies apart in how you feel about certain topics. Which is why it's important to make sure the distance isn't too wide between you and the people you care … Continue reading Distance →

You'll only stress yourself if you insist on maintaining control of what happens in your life. The only thing you can control is your reaction. So, get your priorities in order.

There's always a chance to do better. And you know what? When you can, you do. When you don't, you're just still learning.

You can't really control how others treat you. But you can control your attitude and how you respond. In fact, because you can control your attitude, that has a huge effect on how others see you. Your attitude can make you more or less appealing. So, in a way, it can have a huge impact … Continue reading Attitude →

Remember that if you're still living, then there's still more to your story. So, if something you wanted hasn't happened for you, simply contemplate that it just hasn't happened yet. As long as you're breathing, there's still a chance for things to change, even for the better.

If it's taking a long to happen, don't fret and panic over it, wait calmly on it. You'd be doing the same thing, essentially passing the time, but one way is a lot more stressful and the other will save your health. Learn how to wait, especially if the only other choice is to fret.

Sometimes when you're struggling, the only thing you have is your vision of a better future. Hold on to the vision long enough, and it can help you see that better future come true.

It can be difficult dealing with being underestimated, looked at as being less capable than you really are. But there's advantage in it. As usual, it's beneficial to look at the bright side of things. The bright side of being underestimated is that they'll leave you alone, giving you space and breathing room to achieve … Continue reading Underestimated →

The thing about tests are when you're taking them, you can't get too bogged down in thinking. You're much more successful if you are present and actively participating, rather than thinking or remembering data and strategies. Those are what you should focus on in your prep and study time, so that when you do take … Continue reading Tests →

It's easy to get so caught up in the idea of a perfect summer that you forget to enjoy it. It goes by faster than you realize. It's usually hotter than you'd like. And every day is not a day at the beach, even if you live at the beach. As with everything, be present … Continue reading Summer →

Rest is not a luxury, it is a necessity. You can't expect your body and brain to work nonstop. Like any machine, it will break down eventually if you don't take care of it. You have to rest. So, you might as well allow for the time to do so. When the time comes to … Continue reading Rest →

When you have a job, you are expected to act as a professional. It's not always easy. However, it becomes crystal clear why it's important if you put yourself in the customer or client's position. When you're paying for a service, don't you appreciate professionalism? That golden rule truly is golden.

You may only have one voice, but sometimes that can make all the difference. Sometimes it takes one voice to stand up for what's right, to call out what isn't, and to inspire others to do the same. We all only have one voice, but when we come together, the sound is mighty.

Being neat can be extremely helpful. The better organized you are, the smoother your life goes, the better time you have to enjoy it. Yeah, neat is so cool, it used to be something people said to mean "cool". Isn't that neat?

Calling someone mediocre as an insult just shows that you were always going to insult them, no matter what. It could have been for too much of something, or for the lack of something else, but because they're simply acceptable, you just zing them with being "mediocre". Goes to show that humans can gripe about … Continue reading Mediocre →

As long as you live, the lessons in life don't seem to end. There's always something to learn, some wisdom to gain. It's the lessons that you refuse to learn that will torment you. They won't simply go away because you don't want them. If they've been presented to you, it's best to learn them … Continue reading Lessons →

Unless or until kindness is the leading algorithm there really is no good reason for social media to exist. Sure, it supposedly helps democratize the dissemination of news and information. But does it really? Or does it warp and mold it to fit into whatever bubble you feel most comfortable in? And have you noticed … Continue reading Kindness →

They say life is about the journey not the destination. So, why do we let the journey be so difficult? If it's all about the journey, then it might be best to focus, relax, and enjoy it. Rushed or relaxed, either way it's not really a long one for anyone, so make the most of … Continue reading Journey →

Ideas can rescue you. A big idea can end a dark chapter and begin a bright new one. Ideas are important, so remember to listen for them. Because they are floating around waiting to inspire you.

Health trumps it all. You could be going through a rough patch where everything in your life sucks, but as long as you have good health, you have a fighting chance to turn things around. Or, you could have all the money in the world with any imaginable luxury at your fingertips, and none of … Continue reading Health →

We would all like to be known for our greatness. It starts with acknowledging it ourselves. And then treating everyone else with the respect that their greatness warrants. You have greatness when you act with greatness.

When people get hung up on fairness, they make themselves miserable. What is considered fair can be so subjective on so many levels that it may never be achieved. Now, kindness is easily achievable, and should be expected. Go for kindness.

Things shouldn't necessarily be easy for you all the time, but you should approach it all with ease. Life is hard and can be stressful, but we get to choose how to respond. If you can get in the habit of approaching it all with ease, you'll have a much more pleasant time with it. … Continue reading Ease →

People would be a lot happier if society was focused more on decency and less on marketability. All the hunting for likes and follows tends to bring out the worst in individuals. Since we're all stuck with each other, we should learn to treat each other with decency rather than as a factor in engagement … Continue reading Decency →

Imagine a world where competence was valued over the bottom line. Where quality service was a goal for investors instead of getting the most out of investing in the least. These same investors tend to forget that they are customers themselves when they're only focused on profits. They just know crappy, disgruntled service when they … Continue reading Competence →

A huge problem is daunting and can seem impossible to solve. That's why you break it down into smaller bits. Keep breaking it down into things you can take care of. Then, as you add up the ones you solve, eventually you'll handle the whole problem. It takes focus and attention.

Art is highly subjective. But it's also a universal fact that everyone is moved by some form or expression of art. It's just one of those things that go along with being human. It's encouraged to find out what it is that speaks to you and moves you, and then enjoy it. Because life is … Continue reading Art →

The weight of something is objective, but how heavy or light it is can be highly subjective. Some things are so light, they help lighten you. Some things are very heavy and can bring you down. It's how you look at it and the meaning you put behind it. But the scale, the scale tells … Continue reading Weight →

Babies and puppies are so happy because they are completely unbothered by what other people are thinking. You can do that too. Plus, you more than likely have a lot better handle on your motor skills than they do, so you could it have it even better than them. The key is to be unbothered … Continue reading Unbothered →

Today is all we've got for sure. There is a likely possibility that we'll get tomorrow, but it isn't guaranteed. Might as well fully enjoy today while it's here.

We're all selfish in some regard, as it tends to come out of caring and looking out for ourselves. But when being selfish is your dominant character trait, then it becomes problematic. There's only one planet for all of us to share, so the key is to remember that we are sharing.

I notice that the more righteous a person acts, the angrier they are, and it's a self-fueling closed circle of misery. It begs the question, is all that misery worth being able to spew your righteous opinion?

Peace requires wanting it more than wanting to be right. There are too many perspectives and too many parts to the whole story to have a unanimously and ultimately agreed upon right way. If the need to be right is dropped and kindness is the focus, then peace can be easily had.

Ordinary is subjective. So, whether you're hoping for an ordinary day, week, or life, or you're wanting something a little less ordinary, remember that you're the one deciding what that is. It's your life, make up your parameters of what's ordinary or not.

Nostalgia is a lovely place to visit, as long as you're honest to yourself about it. It's not how it really happened, you're making it up as you go along. Nostalgia rewrites history and puts a hazy glow on your memories of a long gone time and place. It makes it nicer, more sweet, and … Continue reading Nostalgia →

Money is not the root of all evil, the root is man. Mankind uses money for evil, not the other way around. But they have also been know to use money for good. Money is just a tool. People choose whether to use it for good or evil. Unfortunately, the more money that is at … Continue reading Money →

We are made of and from love. So why is the world so filled with the opposite, which is fear, and all the ugly manifestations from it? What is the point of all that? Is this all a test? Or a punishment for some reason?

If you can somehow learn to be kinder each day then you've found a way to win at life. Life is hard, people are thoughtlessly and sometimes knowingly cruel. A key to happiness is to be kind despite all of this because that shows that you can rise above it. But it can get more … Continue reading Kinder →

Joy is chosen. And here's the great part: it can be chosen regardless of outside circumstances, no matter how rough they could be. Here's something else: there could be the most wonderful circumstances in the world happening, but until you choose joy, you won't feel it. nightmare.

Inventors are cool, and some of their inventions are so appreciated, like toilets or even toilet paper. But isn't is interesting to think of them as discoverers instead? After all, we don't know where ideas come from, but they're somehow floating around the atmosphere until a great mind seems to grab a hold of one. … Continue reading Inventors →

Do you ever think about how one day, you'll just be a part of history? You, specifically, may not end up in the history books, but you certainly are a part of a generation that will be studied. Now, do you want to be commemorated as a heroic and respectful generation that helped the future … Continue reading History →

Grace is one of those wonderful virtues that you don't know was missing until you experience it. Then you wonder how you got along all this time without it. We should all strive to treat each other with grace. And what goes perfect with grace is dignity. What a wonderful world it would be if … Continue reading Grace →

Fear is a powerful emotion that can be used against us to control our actions and allegiance. Ultimately, fear can destroy every one of us. That's why it's important to question anyone or anything that uses fear as a reason why you should align with them. live

If we were to focus only on appreciation for our lives, than anything else we get is just extra blessings. It may not always look like it, but we are blessed already. If not, then what is the point of being here? Appreciation really is a great way to show even the most cynical people … Continue reading Extra →

It seems that death is the ultimate mystery to any of us until we experience it. Perhaps that's why we should focus on living while we can. That's hard enough as it is without complicating it with the unsolvable mystery of death. life. I I'm sure any one who has crossed over that mystery would … Continue reading Death →

There's a fine line between caution and fear. You can be so focused on being cautious that you get bogged down in fear. my However it is still important to remain vigilant and maintain caution for your peace and safety in this modern world.

None of us like to be told to behave, especially when we're full-grown adults. But we also expect others around us to behave, especially when they are so-called fully grown adults.end The moral of the story is we are all in this together and we all need to do our part to make it a … Continue reading Behave →

A bit of altruism is needed to create a healthy, functioning society. We need people to care more for the well being of others around them. will But it can't be all one-sided, only thinking of others, never about oneself. After all, your own well-being needs to be taken into account and well cared for. … Continue reading Altruism →

Nostalgia is a lovely trap. You can waste your life away thinking about an idealized past. The thing is, you were busy living it when it was in the present. That's something you should continue to do today. It's nice to ponder yesterday, just be sure you're also enjoying today, so you have memories to … Continue reading Yesterday Once More →

Wishes are nice, but they don't help you without some action behind them. It's good to think up what you would wish for, but then it's important to put a plan in action. Write them down, break it down into small, incremental actions steps, and then get to action. Make your wishes come true by … Continue reading Wishes →

It's a small world, but a big place, and often our loved ones are scattered in different cities. If they're important to you, it's important to plan your visits. And as it turns out, there are only so many chances you get to do so. There are only so many holidays where you'll all be … Continue reading Visits →

It's true that we have no business worrying about what others think of us, but I don't believe it ever helps to actively behave in an unbecoming or crude manner. Sure, we shouldn't care what others think of us, but acting crudely seems to deliberately be asking for an opinion. We are all stuck on … Continue reading Unbecoming →

Trials can make you stronger, or ultimately break you. It all depends on what the trial is for, and who's behind it. But it does help if you can remember that something that is make or break, doesn't have to only be the 'break". You can choose the positive side. vile

Success is a wonderful thing to experience. For the most part, your success is up to you and your own expectations. Being grateful for what you have, and really appreciating your life is the best form of success. Appreciate your blessings. that

Revenge is a bad idea for a lot of reasons. For one, entertaining it only makes you feel sick. For another, and perhaps most cruelly, enacting revenge entangles you with the other party even more than before. It's better to drop it completely and focus on what you do want, not what you want to … Continue reading Revenge →

Sometimes it's necessary to wait pending more information. Sometimes waiting isn't an option. Pending more information could be a saving grace, or it could just be a crutch. Often you have to mix a bit of faith with pragmatism. am

Outer space contains mysteries and wonders to discover. Just like inside of your mind. There's mysteries and wonders inside that you can discover which would keep you so busy you wouldn't even think of outer space. Yet, it'll still be out there. I

We're all needy at some point, it's part of the human experience. Some just happen to be needy more often. Others seem to forget they were ever in need themselves, and look down cruelly on those who are. Tragedy can hit any one of us at any one time. How wonderful it would be if … Continue reading Needy →

When good manners are missing, those who expect them are horribly disappointed, and those who have no idea what they are simply feel like the world is cold and lacking. Manners count. They quite possibly are the reason for a successful society. They just need people to care enough to teach them, and care enough … Continue reading Manners →

Life can throw some pretty tough lessons your way. But they're not helpful if you don't take it upon yourself to learn. It's your life, meet it with everything you've got.

If you're gonna say that you were "just kidding," you should at least try to be funny. Kidding around isn't so innocent if it's at the expense of another. Lighten up, sure, but don't kid around if it's not kind.

It's a jungle out there. Luckily, if you're calm and careful you can navigate it okay. The thing about jungles is they're full of scary creatures, who have their own business to attend to and don't want to have to deal with you. But if you cause a ruckus, they will deal. Keeping calm is … Continue reading Jungle →

Your instincts can help you, but you've got to trust them. It's like with any relationship, you've got to do your part for it to be successful.

Happy is temporary. But all the other emotions only help to amplify how great happy is. So when you are happy, relish it.

Life is just a guessing game for all of us. We get some right, we get some wrong, but life moves along just the same. There's no perfect and precise route to it. You just have to make a choice, and the "right" one is just a guess. So, guess.

Don't allow yourself to be discouraged by difficult situations. Believe you can figure out a solution and get working on it. And the best way to figure it out is to first believe you can.